I recently found out my husband has an attraction to transgender women. I need help and advice. Is he gay?

If anyone has been in this situation how did you deal? I don't want to get a divorce, but do I have to?I recently found out my husband has an attraction to transgender women. I need help and advice. Is he gay?
Emily,


To begin with is he interested in a transsexual woman or a transgender? There is a big difference there. A transsexual woman is and always has been female in nature. She is just as much female as any other woman.


If it is a transgender then he is interested in men! Transgenders include, crossdressers, transvestites, shemales, transgenderists, drag queens/kings etc..


No you do not have to get a divorce regardless. Just because he may show interest in them does not mean he has or ever will have any contact with any of us. As in any relationship one must work at it constantly and move forward until you know for sure where this will go. Do have a calm heart to heart with him and discuss your concerns.


From a transsexual woman!I recently found out my husband has an attraction to transgender women. I need help and advice. Is he gay?
I'm a transgender woman, and I know the type of guy who's into women like us so trust me: your husband isn't gay and probably isn't what most people would consider bi. Lots of straight men are attracted to transgender women; its common enough that you can find ads for TG porn in mainstream porn magazines and websites. Lots of guys are interested in stuff they see in porn that they know they'll never get in real life -like Pamela Anderson. Just because your husband likes TG porn doesn't mean that he'll eventually be unfaithful to you.





So the particular porn your husband likes isn't an issue. What is an issue is how you found out about it and reacted. Were you snooping? If so, you need to talk to your husband about what you did, apologize, and promise not to snoop again. Even if you weren't snooping, you need to accept that your husband will keep on consuming porn just like almost all the other guys out there. If you can't do that, you will end up getting a divorce eventually.
not necessarily. some women like feminine men and some men like a little husky women. if he is attracted to men then he is gay or bi. have a look at this ad posted on the internet - ';Im a white male 39 from Lehigh area,Im seriously looking for a husky woman who is over the age of 21 from Lehigh Acres area or from';.
I'm not really sure how to answer that. It's possible that it's just a weird fetish... really weird fetish.





I've never actually heard of this before, but I think that as his wife you would know if he were gay or not. The best thing I can do is just talk about it. Rip the bandage off. Do it quick and get it over with. Wait, that's my advice for coming out....





Well, no reason it wouldn't work in this situation too I guess.





Sorry I couldn't be more helpful...
Im all for injecting a bit of kinkiness into relationships. what about you suggest to your husband that sometimes you dress up in a strap on? You wouldnt have to do it all the time. you might enjoy it. that way he gets a little of his fantasy and you keep him.