Advice to show husband what he's missing out on??

My husband is a truck driver and is only home for 1 hr every night before the kids go to bed. How can I get him to see he needs to be home more, because HE and the KIDS are missing out...any advice??Advice to show husband what he's missing out on??
Just make sure he knows how much he's missing-- if they are really little then he's missing a lot about their childhood. Maybe you could (nicely) try and figure out how you could still have him work but also spend more time with the kids. I know that my cousin's kids have to get up an hour earlier in the morning just so they can see their dad before he goes to work. It's sad, but unfortunately many families HAVE to have the husband working those hours to get by. Maybe try and schedule special times that you all can do something together? But I noticed you said ';what he's missing out on.'; Does he believe that he's not missing out? Or does he act as though he doesn't care? If that's the case, you might want to evaluate whether or not you're putting your kids in the best situation...





Hope it all works out. :)Advice to show husband what he's missing out on??
Do you have a camcorder, tape things for him. He is trying to make money to keep the household going, I imagion he wishes he could see everything, but sometimes you have to work long to make money to support a families.
guess u shodul be greatufl hes up to the respncibilty and not crushin donw under the burden u dont need to make him sorry for what hes missin he knwos what hes missing u shodul help him feel good and tahst hes doing right then and that u appreciate his sacrifces for ur well beign . five children ! who can provide for five children nwoadays he must be great man


good luck
I'm not sure what to say here because i have mixed feelings, your husband is working hard for you and the kids maybe he knows what he is missing, don't think adding guilt is very nice, he is not out having a party he is supporting his family, maybe you could work on making the time he is there quality time, show him that the kids and you miss him yet you appreciate how hard he works for you all. maybe if he sees that he will want to take some time off
Let your kids stay up an hour later. Your husband is working his butt off to take care of all of you and it would be easier to change your kids' schedule than his. By the way, he's a grown up and able to think logically too. In his mind the situation is fine or he would have already changed it. Quit nagging and be happy that you have such a devoted husband and father to your kids.








Edit: Why ask the question then use sarcasm when you get responses? People are genuinely trying to help you here and no one has given you bad advice that I can see. If you treat him anything like you just treated us, then perhaps that's where the problem lies. Maybe he's working long hours purposefully. My guess is you both can't sit down to discuss it because he has already decided ';no'; to your request.
I think you need to help him by easing his load. If you were able to bring in a little money so he could work a little bit less, that would help.


Trust me, he wants to see his kids, he is just exhausted and trying to keep the family supported.


Try not to nag him. I know it's hard.


I would also take lots of pictures, put them into books, videos,


etc.


Help him by keeping him in the loop.
I can kind of relate to this one..sort of. I am in the military and I am sometimes worried that my gal might think the same thing. He is doing what he loves and what he feels is good not only for his career but good for the family. I know that you want him to be happy you just want to see more of him. Tell him that. Tell him to maybe take less hours and tell himm how you feel. Dont be scared. Just try to see thins from him point of view also you know. Good luck.
I hate to say it but that's the life of the truck driver! You're lucky he's not otr, my husband was and we would only see him ever two weeks for two days in which he slept and I did all the laundry not much time for the kids. Maybe try to bring in some extra money so he can cut his hours.
My uncle is a truck driver and he's only home once a week, you should consider yourself lucky.





Also do you really think he enjoys seeing his children for such a little amount of time? I'm sure if he could change it he would.
Truck drivers scrifice time with their familys All of the time. they make very good money. try and plan one day of family fun a week on your husbands day off. It sounds like hes working very hard to provide a good life for his family. unfortunatly he is missing out on the childhood of his children. The two of you have to talk about what you can do. wather it means for him to get a different job and you to work part time of just more family time.





good luck.
How do you think the dad's serving in Iraq feel?
He is working hard to support the family. If he worked less there would be less income and he is just doing what he feels he needs to do for his family. My husband only sees my kids an hour or so a night, but then on his days off here is here all day. Thats what we have to do to afford one parent to stay home. Make fun family days out of his days off, even if you all just hang out in the backyard together. Make him videos and take plently of pictures of the things you and the kids are doing. That way, he feels included. Good luck to you!
There is a big difference with dads serving in the military, police force or fire dept. These types of jobs are for long periods of times and it is expected that they be gone for days or home late at night. But if you CAN change your job so that it doesn't cause problems in your family, you should. Everyone keeps saying how he is working hard and she needs to stop nagging. Staying home with children is a hard job too, not to mention whatever other job she does watching children in the home for an income. Just because he is earning money doesn't mean he can neglect his wife and kids. So she shouldn't say anything because he is bringing home a paycheck? That is not a marriage. A marriage is two people communicating, spending time together and raising kids. If all the responsibility falls on one person, that is not fair and can cause bitterness and resentment, which are bad things for a marriage. They need to sit and talk about these things and how they can fix it. My husband has worked nights before, he has also worked and gone to school so I hardly saw him, but it was only TEMPORARY! He was smart enough to know that wouldn't work for the rest of our marriage. Now he has a job where he works days M-F and sometimes on Saturdays but we see him everyday. That is not possible for everyone, I understand that, but one hour every night is ridiculous. Sit him down and tell him you miss him and so do the kids. Tell him that you want to help him look for another job with better hours and will be patient until then.
Good question. If you havent already, maybe talking with him about how both you and your children feel. Maybe he just doesnt realize that you all miss him.





Does he HAVE to work these hours? Can he chose different hours that would allow him more time with the family?





Maybe taking a nice family vacation will ';remind'; him how much you all need each other.





Maybe the children could make a drawing about daddy so he can take it with him on the road. Something straight from the kids can be a wake up call.