In-laws coming over,big fight with my husband, any advice?

My husband and I have been married for 3 years. Next month his mother and grandmother are coming over to visit for two weeks.


We have a new very nice master bedroom with a new latex mattress. We also have one extra unfurnished room in our house, and a really uncomfortable sofa bed in the living room.


My husband thinks that since they are older people we should give up our nicer bed and let them sleep on it, and we will sleep in the living room. But I'm sure that it's going to be really inconvenient for us since the bed downstairs is terrible, and I want to feel rested and in good spirits for the time when in-laws come over. Besides, his mother and grandmother are not blood related (they are in-laws) and I don't think it's nice for them to share one bed.


I suggested that we should furnish the spare room a guest room and have them sleep there but he says it's not worth spending money on a bed we'll only need for two weeks. He says I am selfish and I don't care about his relatives.


Am I wrong?In-laws coming over,big fight with my husband, any advice?
Sounds like you need a guest room! But with the economy and not being sure of you money situation this may not be something you can do right now. You may want to invest even in an air mattress that you or your husband can use and the other can sleep on the couch. I can understand why he wants his mother to be comfortable but if you are both mirable sleeping out on the couch it will make for a horrible two weeks. My guess is he thinks you are selfish maybe based on how you responded to what he said. What I mean is if he said ';Honey I think we should give up our bed to Mom and Grandma and sleep on the couch'; and your reaction was '; No that is so uncomfortable I don't want to give up my bed we need a bed for the guest room!'; Then he may take it as that your comfort is more important then his Mom's and grandma's. Let him know you think this is the perfect time (if money allows) to put together a guest room this way you both are comportable and his MOm and grandma will be as well. This way you can also have a place for others to stay in the future and there are some great mattress sale right now. See what he says. Don't go hog wild with the room you just need a bed, comforter, pillows, and maybe a night table and lamp.In-laws coming over,big fight with my husband, any advice?
You already asked this question. Whether you care about them or not, fork out the money and get them beds to sleep in. I'm sure they'll visit or someone else will in the future. And yes, it is not nice to even ask them to share a bed. I don't know if you are selfish or if you're both tight @sses.
What if you purchased 2 single sized air mattresses on amazon.com?


You can put them in the spare room, they get their own bed each, then you can deflate them and stow them away until you need them again.
There are all kinds of places that rent furniture out. You may find that this will fit your needs and the financial issues that your husband brings up. Check them out in your area and good luck!
one its his mother i always give up my room when my mother and father come for a visit yes he is right i feel. remember its only for two weeks i think you can handle it.. Its his mother not a uncle or aunt
No, you are not wrong. He is the selfish one. Rent some furniture. Sounds like this is more of a financial issue with him than anything else.
I might could understand your husband if they were only going to be staying for a couple of nights, but I think giving up your marital suit for 2 whole weeks would not be feasible. I agree with getting a couple of decent air mattresses. My husband and I have a double stacked air mattress and it sleeps well enough to do the job. This way you will have them if you need them again in the future, but wont have to drop all the money on a spare bedroom group.