I need advice my husband gets mad of everything if i do something wrong he wants to pay back why?

Sometimes it hurts me so much the way he is sometimes he starts telling me about my pass and hurts me alot why does he do this i don't now if i can take it anymore i have 1 year and half of being marriend and i don't now why this is happening am i doing something wrong in my relationship. About my weight he tells me to loose the pounds he has been complaining about everithing please help me??I need advice my husband gets mad of everything if i do something wrong he wants to pay back why?
When you two got married, he was suppose to leave the pasts behind, his and yours. I am sorry for the pain is he causing you, something is definetly going on with him. The problem could me something to do with his work, but he has no reason to put you through hell. People, both men and women seem to lash out at the person most closest to them when they are hurting or upset.





Sit down with him, and tell him, ok we need to talk and I want us to act like adults and talk about what has been going on here. Ask him if he is going through some trouble at work or is he worried about something. If he says, yes, tell him you aren't the bad guy, and that you love with all your heart, but he's been very mean and hurtful. Tell him you will help in anyway possible, but you can't stand in more insults or him bringing up the past all the time. If he says nothing is wrong, say ';oh yes there is'; because you have never ever treated me so badly, and I want to know what I have done to you or think I have done to you to deserve this crappy treatment.





If he's not answering your questions, then you are going to have to tell him to straighten up. Be honest with him, that you can't that this abuse, and that's what it is, sweetie, mental and emotional abuse. Ask him about going to counseling because something is terribly wrong, and it's not going to just go away. That you feel that you need some outside help. If he says he's not going, then you go, and the counsler can help you determine if this heartache is worth it.





Honey, I have been skinny and fat at different times in my marriage of 26 years, most of time that's just a person's excuse to have something to fight about. You are going to confront him to solve this mystery or you are going to have to learn to take the insults and mean things he says. I hope you confront him, because he vowed to love, honor, and cherish you, and this doesn't fit any of those. You do not deserve this, if he has a grief with you, then he should tell you what it is, so you can fix it or deal with it. Honey, I pray that it's just something at work or money worries, but be prepare that it's he's not happy. Are you ready for that? If he's not happy, he can't make you happy, so it's better to part, and you can start a whole beginning, because this kind of abuse is going to wreck you emotionally and physically. I know, unfortunately, I have been through a stroke and nervous breakdown going through marriage troubles. Was it worth it, I don't think so. I am suffering from the after effects, no, don't ruin yourself over something that you are doing everything in your heart to do to make right. It takes him willing to give just as much to make a happy marriage, and if he's not willing to try, then ';no'; it's not worth it. You are worth a man loving you, all those few pounds could be a turn on for the right man.





Please, please don't let this go on, because it's not going to get better till you two face it. It's not going to easy at all, but it's got to be done, because you can't keep up this way of life. Again, you don't deserve it.....I will be praying you and your husband, to give you both strength to deal with face on. Please, remember that you are worth a happy loving man...every one deserves to be treated with love and respect, and right now he's not, so find out why?





God bless us all............I need advice my husband gets mad of everything if i do something wrong he wants to pay back why?
If your husband criticizes everything you do, and takes his anger out on you, that is abuse. Tell him how you feel, how his words and actions make you feel. Suggest that you seek counseling together. If he won't go, go by yourself. A good marriage is worth preserving -- but you need to ascertain whether you have a good marriage or not before putting any more effort into it. If you are the only one working on it, then it is not a marriage. Good luck.
It's called verbal abuse. It's not a good situation to be in. I hope that if you two aren't able to resolve this, then you will either seek outside assitance or leave him. People get frustrated with one another. Especially husband/wife. It happens. You two will occassionally say things that shouldn't be said. It happens. What you're describing sounds like a $hitty case of verbal abuse though. You shouldn't have to tolerate it.
He is controlling and abusive...you have 2 choices either become submissive and kiss his a s s or you hold onto yourself and leave him..he will not change.
THE PROBLEM IS HIM NOT YOU ... You need to get to counseling he maybe cheating either way you need to get to counseling they have a way of getting it all out if you do not have kids good time to leave he will only get worse when the pressure of kids comes in to play. please heed my warning and get things moving along before it is too late and 14 years and 3-4 kids later and your stock with a cheating man who has put you down so much you have no self esteem left to leave.
He shouldn't be treating you this way! You need marriage counseling and if he don't go then you need to. Join a co-dependencey group and get some support don't take this adn stick up for youself! If you two are already having these kinds of problems in your marriage what do you think it will be like in 2 or 20 years from now you might think about getting out now while you can and that alone might change his tone and make him see his wrongs! No body is perfect and he needs to back off!





Pray to the higher power to guide you and heal the areas that need healing in your marriage.





You'll know when enough is enough and by the sounds of it, it's enough! Has he always been this way or is it something new? If it is new it may just be caused by stress, either way he needs to stop treating you like this and the only way you might be able to get him to stop is to pack your bags and walk out and let him know you are serious! Try talking to him and if nothing first it maight be all he needs, he may not even realize he is doing what he is. You could also tape him and play it back for him and let him listen to himslef this might make him more angry but it also might work!


Good luck, my prayers are with you!