My husband has depression and anxiety issues and is an alcoholic. He doesn't get drunk very often but he buys the little pint size(I think it's a pint) vodka's and drinks straight from the bottle only chasing it with something like coke or whatever. I'm not sure often he drinks them because he doesn't always drink in front of me- I can tell sometimes when he has been drinking but I don't know if he drinks them everyday or what. Well Friday I sent him to the store to pick up soemthing for dinner and I gave him a $5 bill to buy a tomato from the people that sell them on the side of the road. They were closed so he just bought the tomato from the store instead and put everything on the debit card. Well Saturday I asked him to go get $20 out of the ATM and go to the dollar store to buy a gift bag for a present for a birthday party and get change so I could put a $10 in the birthday card. Well he said he forgot to use the cash to buy the bag but he went to the convenient store to get our little girl an icee and him a Dr. Pepper and got change. We are tight on funds now since he was out of work sick for almost 2 weeks and today they let him go and we have 2 kids and another on the way. Well later on Saturday I could tell he had been drinking so I asked him about the change from the $20 since he gave me a $10 for the b-day card and I also asked him what happened to the $5 bill for the tomato that he ended up buying at the store instead and paying for with the debit card- well he avoided the question, changed the subject and wouldn not tell me where the rest of the money went. He has lied to me before and so I can't trust him much, I knew he had been drinking and I had just had it with him hiding his drinking and lying to me. I told him that I wanted him to leave by the morning since he had been drinking and I didn't want him to drive right then so he left yesterday morning and went to his parents. I just need advice on what to do. We have a little girl that is almost 4, a 7 1/2 month old little girl and another baby due in November. Should I stay with him for sake of our kids, I work full time, I don't know if I can do this on my own. I know he loves me with all his heart and he loves his kids, and I love him to but I have resentment towards him for the things he has put me through. He is not abusive to me or anything or to our kids, he's just got so many issues like the depression and anxiety and drinking problem which he has admitted that he's is alcoholic. His job let him go because he was out sick for 2 weeks- he went to the doc and had an upper respiratory infection and told him to rest and put him on antibiotics and he works in the 100+ degree Louisiana heat doing construction so he couldn't go work while sick and antibiotics plus he has IBS(irritable bowel syndrome) which the antibiotics triggered and he was constantly on the toilet. I think they are in the wrong to discharge him- they put the reason as absenteeism even though he called or texted his supervisor everyday he was out and has hardly ever missed work in the year and 3 months he has been there. Anyway so he lost his job and his family in a matter of 2 days. What should I do- try to work things out?I need advice-my husband has a drinking problem and he hides it from me. I caught him in a lie this weekend.?
Do not stay with him for the sake of the kids. The kids don't need to be exposed to alcoholic behavior. You can do it on your own easier without a drunk in your life. Leave him, tell him to sober up and deal with his alcohol problem and you MIGHT consider taking him back.
Unrelated - regular yogurt or acidophilus pills from the health food store will help prevent/cure the diarrhea caused by antibiotics.I need advice-my husband has a drinking problem and he hides it from me. I caught him in a lie this weekend.?
Alcohol creates problems... good luck.
wow sounds like my family... my dad was and still is an alcoholic and my mom was pretty much a single mom from the time i was 3 and my little sister was 16 months old. Im now 19 and shes now 16 our parents divorced when i was 4. And i have to say now that im older speaking from a child in your type of situation i would rather my parents be separated and getting along than together and fighting or arguing. It's not health for your kids to have to go through that and it wouldn't be fair for them to be raised in a house seeing two ppl together pretending to care about each other over a lie. Granted it would be hard on you. But you truly have to think about what would be best for your kids. a good healthy home in which ppl care and love each other (being your and your girls) or a home where the father drinks to escape from his depression and a mother being torn in both ways... think about that
You should demand one of two things and do it in an intervention. This is where other people are involved and it is tough love.
If you stay married in this case your life may just be and ugly expression of what it could be.
So, he needs to be sober, get help, go to aa meetings and you need to, in my opinion get everyone together that supports you and do an intervention. That show is on TV if you have cable and it works lots of times.
If you have to go it alone you will be able to handle it. Just do the right thing and what happens happens, if he REALLY loves you he will face his addiction, that is the truth.
Alcoholics LIE! Addicts LIE!
You either want to be in or you want to be out...Until you can clearly see the role you play in this sick relationship you won't be able to make an informed decision about how you want to live your life.
I recommend strongly that you go to Al-Anon and get some help for yourself. You really need to understand how you play into this relationship.
At the end of the day - man or no man - you should be able to be strong and independent...and able to support yourself. If there's one thing you can count on from an addict - it's that you can't count on them.
Good luck!
I sent you a super long e-mail instead of answering this question here. About my experience with an alcoholic Husband (he's sober now) and I hope that you are able to take at least a little something from it and that it helps you.
Oh my... sounds like he has a lot on his plate and that you are the rock of the family at the moment. Very sorry to hear about your difficult situation.
Is he being treated for the depression and anxiety? the drinking sounds like an instant soother or security blanket for times when he is feeling low and it obviously goes hand in hand with the depression. Has he opened up to you about his depression? Im guessing since he is sneaking the booze he is ashamed and knows how you feel about it. This has put you in a very awkward position because he is in dire need of help but at the same time his misfortunes are also causing you to be the victim.... his self worth has to be very very low right now so you guys are going to have to get to the source of his misery and treat those problems if you are to be happy again and if he is going to find self esteem.
I don't know if counseling is an option but it sounds like you guys are in desperate need of it and not many people know it but your medical insurance most of the time covers marital and personal counseling so call your insurance company and find out your benefits. I would sit down with your husband and let him know that you care about him and you want him to be happy again and for your family to move forward in a positive way. Remind him of the reasons why you married him, hearing those things could help his ego and also inspire some guilt for the way he has been treating you with the lying. The trick will be to not use ';you'; too much and emphasize that you want to get through this as a team. If you put him on the hot seat and remind him of how crappy he has been, it will only put him in defense or lying mode.
Tell him that you would like him to join you in counseling.. . just as we go to the Dr. when our stomach is upset or we have the flu, people go to counseling when their mind and emotions don't feel right. Many men see it as a pride thing so emphasize to him that you two can do this together in private. It should be just between you two because involving family and friends will only make him feel more miserable and worthless. You could also bring up the things about yourself that you need help with from a counselor so he doesn't feel like the only person that needs it and feel singled out. I know you do deep down feel he is to blame for a lot of this... but at this point he knows that!!!! If you have the patience and love for him, now is the time to step up and really start making strides to get your relationship mended and his life back to normal. Lowering yourself just a little on a realistic level will make him more likely to respond and open up to you.. right now you are the saint and you hold more power in the marriage. If someone feels embarressed of his or herself why would they feel comfortable for opening up to a saint?
Being the supporter is going to feel empty for a little bit but it's honestly amazing how close counseling can make you feel. My husband and I go to couples counseling once a week for our issues and we leave there with a better understanding with ourselves and each other.... I can't tell you how much it's opened up my husband and made him more willing to forgive himself and be better all around.
I really hope you both find peace... make it clear to him that you want him to get better and making strides with you to improve is his only option. He and you deserve happiness, especially because of how hard you work.... your little girl and the baby on the way need their parents strong and happy... so look at the baby's birth that is coming as a goal for your two's recovery!!!!!!!! :)
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Is my husband gay? I need advice on what to do.?
Hello. Found out my husband has been going to Shemale porn websites and has done google searches on fake nails, wigs and sex changes. Then there are websites for Transvestites clothes...and searches on Craigslist Personnals from Thailand to local area for Transvestites looking for men. Is this just a curioisty or something more. We have been together for 10 years and he has never been big into sex....I am just lost and confused.Is my husband gay? I need advice on what to do.?
It's unlikely that he's gay, and it's even more unlikely that he's contemplating 'sex change'. The vast majority of men who visit this sort of website are straight men, who have a transvestite fetish or fantasy.
It may be that your husband is a crossdresser, looking to satisfy his fantasies. It might make you feel better (or it might not) to know that, statistically, 1 in 5 men are regular crossdressers, and more than 70% of those men are happily married straight men.
I suggest that you need to sit down and talk to him about this, in a calm and non-confrontational manner. From the figures above, you'll see that many wives can accommodate this fetish; you may be able to work out a compromise with him, but only if you're prepared to talk to him calmly and openly.
You might find some of the information and advice on this site helpful;
http://www.ladylike.org.uk/
(I promise there is no sexual content,or 'porn', on this site)Is my husband gay? I need advice on what to do.?
YES, your husband is gay, he has an intrest/attracted to the shemale. Talk to your husband %26amp; tell him you know, best to let him go. He's not worth it never been big into sex its because he was living a lie. We had a male coworker that was truely gay %26amp; many years he mislead everyone he was also married %26amp; had two kids. In the end he divorced %26amp; lives a happy life now, wife remained single but dating bc of supports from her ex husband. You deserve better, find another man that'll f*** you good don't settle for less.
ask him, the answer might hurt but knowing is better than sitting around worried and wondering about it. I say just come out and ask him. Go somewhere alone or for a walk or just out and tell him you need him to be honest with you like he's never been before tell him you wont be angry but that you need to know. my opinion is that he is or wants to be a woman. Thats my opinion.
sorry but he is defiantly gay or at least bi maybe he surprised these feelings for a long time and this looking is how he controls it or what is probably the truth he is using these sites to meet men
do a strip tease to him and ask if he wants to see more.if he says no, break your relationship.
OMG. Listen looking may be curious. But the searching for wigs, nails and clothes. He is screaming Gender bender.
If he has done all that, I think he is gay. And if he has never been with a man. I think he wants to try it.
Not 100% sure, but chances are that he is gay.
IT sounds like he is gay, sorry.
It sounds like he might like guys to me!!!!!
No he is transgendered. You need to talk you need counseling
It's unlikely that he's gay, and it's even more unlikely that he's contemplating 'sex change'. The vast majority of men who visit this sort of website are straight men, who have a transvestite fetish or fantasy.
It may be that your husband is a crossdresser, looking to satisfy his fantasies. It might make you feel better (or it might not) to know that, statistically, 1 in 5 men are regular crossdressers, and more than 70% of those men are happily married straight men.
I suggest that you need to sit down and talk to him about this, in a calm and non-confrontational manner. From the figures above, you'll see that many wives can accommodate this fetish; you may be able to work out a compromise with him, but only if you're prepared to talk to him calmly and openly.
You might find some of the information and advice on this site helpful;
http://www.ladylike.org.uk/
(I promise there is no sexual content,or 'porn', on this site)Is my husband gay? I need advice on what to do.?
YES, your husband is gay, he has an intrest/attracted to the shemale. Talk to your husband %26amp; tell him you know, best to let him go. He's not worth it never been big into sex its because he was living a lie. We had a male coworker that was truely gay %26amp; many years he mislead everyone he was also married %26amp; had two kids. In the end he divorced %26amp; lives a happy life now, wife remained single but dating bc of supports from her ex husband. You deserve better, find another man that'll f*** you good don't settle for less.
ask him, the answer might hurt but knowing is better than sitting around worried and wondering about it. I say just come out and ask him. Go somewhere alone or for a walk or just out and tell him you need him to be honest with you like he's never been before tell him you wont be angry but that you need to know. my opinion is that he is or wants to be a woman. Thats my opinion.
sorry but he is defiantly gay or at least bi maybe he surprised these feelings for a long time and this looking is how he controls it or what is probably the truth he is using these sites to meet men
do a strip tease to him and ask if he wants to see more.if he says no, break your relationship.
OMG. Listen looking may be curious. But the searching for wigs, nails and clothes. He is screaming Gender bender.
If he has done all that, I think he is gay. And if he has never been with a man. I think he wants to try it.
Not 100% sure, but chances are that he is gay.
IT sounds like he is gay, sorry.
It sounds like he might like guys to me!!!!!
No he is transgendered. You need to talk you need counseling
Home loan advice for husband with great credit and a wife with bad credit?
My husband and I just did our taxes for the first time as a married couple and found out we owe $4400 dollars.. so my husband wants to take advantage of the first time buyer incentive.
Our problem is..my husband's credit is great. He is at about 730 with only 3,000 in credit card debt. I myself have bad credit at 500. I am going to try to clear off some of my issues...but I wanted some advice about a home loan.
He makes about 90,000 a year and with his good credit, I think he would be able to obtain a ok loan by himself. I was wondering if I should include myself with the loan. I make about 30,000 but with my credit, I am thinking that it would be better if he applied alone.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.Home loan advice for husband with great credit and a wife with bad credit?
He should apply alone if he can qualify for a home loan in the price range of about 240 - 270k. Do you have 3.5% for a down payment? The days of 100% financing are history. Make sure if he does buy a house, that your name is on the deed.Home loan advice for husband with great credit and a wife with bad credit?
being that you only make 90k, if you really wanted to buy in the next year or two, it would probably be better if he applied alone (provided that he didn't have a lot of other debts...like car payments). in the meantime, you should work on starting to clean up your credit today...because those negs are going to take 7.5 years to drop off. as someone else said, you will need to have at least 3.5 percent saved for the FHA downpayment as well as money for closing costs and inspections.
Keep it separate, or his credit rating will go to ****.
Our problem is..my husband's credit is great. He is at about 730 with only 3,000 in credit card debt. I myself have bad credit at 500. I am going to try to clear off some of my issues...but I wanted some advice about a home loan.
He makes about 90,000 a year and with his good credit, I think he would be able to obtain a ok loan by himself. I was wondering if I should include myself with the loan. I make about 30,000 but with my credit, I am thinking that it would be better if he applied alone.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.Home loan advice for husband with great credit and a wife with bad credit?
He should apply alone if he can qualify for a home loan in the price range of about 240 - 270k. Do you have 3.5% for a down payment? The days of 100% financing are history. Make sure if he does buy a house, that your name is on the deed.Home loan advice for husband with great credit and a wife with bad credit?
being that you only make 90k, if you really wanted to buy in the next year or two, it would probably be better if he applied alone (provided that he didn't have a lot of other debts...like car payments). in the meantime, you should work on starting to clean up your credit today...because those negs are going to take 7.5 years to drop off. as someone else said, you will need to have at least 3.5 percent saved for the FHA downpayment as well as money for closing costs and inspections.
Keep it separate, or his credit rating will go to ****.
Need serious advice! My husband won't find a job and we're broke?
Ok, I need some serious advice please..I want to be with my husband but he hasn't had a real job since he got fired last year...he isnt even TRYING to find a damn job and we have a 2 year old.. I was working from home for awhile but I needed more money so I went out and found 2 jobs within a month, and he has been jobless for almost a year...all he does is play computer games all day and now he is going to start college full time so we are definitely screwed cuz he'll use that as an excuse not to work since he has to study... we have bills piling up and literally have no food in the house.. Me working alone for a minimum wage job is not cutting it one bit..
I just dont know what to do!! Everytime I try and talk to him about getting a job he says ';I'll have a job soon, dont worry'; and gets all mad if i keep on him about it... the thing is, he doesnt even try!!
I got him a job at my last company that i worked for (he did nothing to get that job but go to the interview) and he blew the damn job by not showing up even though he claims he didnt know his schedule..
What do i do?? Threatening to leave him wont work..he doesn't take me seriously... and my his relative co-signed for our apartment so it's not like I can just not pay the rent....
He could even get a job at a fast food place in a second and that would help if he at least TRIED but he won't......... I'm so sick of this and need help..Need serious advice! My husband won't find a job and we're broke?
Don't threaten. Do.Need serious advice! My husband won't find a job and we're broke?
WHY are you with him still?
He should NOT be going to school, instead you should be hauling his *** to court!
he is being a lazy SOB! and you have a 2 yr old!?! what is he thinking!!!
forget school! he needs to go get a job! even if you need to find one for him! i cant believe that! if it gets worse you need to say break time and walk out on him. when he doesnt get to see you or the baby for a minute then he will get the hint.!
im sorry you have to go through that. I know it is tough. but hang in there for the baby.
This totally isn't right.You working 2 job's trying to support the household.You mentioned that you didn't have any food.I suggest that you go to Human Services and apply for an EBT card for food.It's a lot of forms to fill out but worth the effort.They base it on the size of your family and what the income is.I had to do this when my husband couldn't find employment.They will assign you a case worker that will help you out.Look up in the phone book under Human Services and locate and office thats close to you.They can process the info fast so at least you can have some food in your house.Regarding your husband not working,he doesn't sound like he's even motivated enough to get a job.I wish I could help you out there.A lot people go through a temp agency to find a job.My husband and son both found job's this way.It's just a suggestion.I wish you luck and hope I've been of some help to you.Sorry for your situation.Please check into the info I provided for you to have food.
You've got a leech attached to you and the only way to get it off is to burn it. Since threatening to leave isn't enough anymore, I guess you need to take it the next step and actually follow through, right?. Even if you do, I'm sorry to say that it doesn't seem to me that he loves either of you anymore, or at least not enough that it will make much of a difference. If you can, get your relative off of the co-sign... get it transferred to the two of you, or take it all on yourself. But then GET OUT.lip gloss
I just dont know what to do!! Everytime I try and talk to him about getting a job he says ';I'll have a job soon, dont worry'; and gets all mad if i keep on him about it... the thing is, he doesnt even try!!
I got him a job at my last company that i worked for (he did nothing to get that job but go to the interview) and he blew the damn job by not showing up even though he claims he didnt know his schedule..
What do i do?? Threatening to leave him wont work..he doesn't take me seriously... and my his relative co-signed for our apartment so it's not like I can just not pay the rent....
He could even get a job at a fast food place in a second and that would help if he at least TRIED but he won't......... I'm so sick of this and need help..Need serious advice! My husband won't find a job and we're broke?
Don't threaten. Do.Need serious advice! My husband won't find a job and we're broke?
WHY are you with him still?
He should NOT be going to school, instead you should be hauling his *** to court!
he is being a lazy SOB! and you have a 2 yr old!?! what is he thinking!!!
forget school! he needs to go get a job! even if you need to find one for him! i cant believe that! if it gets worse you need to say break time and walk out on him. when he doesnt get to see you or the baby for a minute then he will get the hint.!
im sorry you have to go through that. I know it is tough. but hang in there for the baby.
This totally isn't right.You working 2 job's trying to support the household.You mentioned that you didn't have any food.I suggest that you go to Human Services and apply for an EBT card for food.It's a lot of forms to fill out but worth the effort.They base it on the size of your family and what the income is.I had to do this when my husband couldn't find employment.They will assign you a case worker that will help you out.Look up in the phone book under Human Services and locate and office thats close to you.They can process the info fast so at least you can have some food in your house.Regarding your husband not working,he doesn't sound like he's even motivated enough to get a job.I wish I could help you out there.A lot people go through a temp agency to find a job.My husband and son both found job's this way.It's just a suggestion.I wish you luck and hope I've been of some help to you.Sorry for your situation.Please check into the info I provided for you to have food.
You've got a leech attached to you and the only way to get it off is to burn it. Since threatening to leave isn't enough anymore, I guess you need to take it the next step and actually follow through, right?. Even if you do, I'm sorry to say that it doesn't seem to me that he loves either of you anymore, or at least not enough that it will make much of a difference. If you can, get your relative off of the co-sign... get it transferred to the two of you, or take it all on yourself. But then GET OUT.
I need advice, my husband is joining the army!?
My husband is joining the Army and I'm a little worried about him. I have complete faith in him but.....um well he is very kind hearted and buckles very easily. He said he grew up with a very strict father but I am trying to help him understand D.I.'s and nothing like a strict mother or father. He is in for a rude awakening, I'm sure. But I want to see him succeed, what can I do to get him semi-ready for this new life.I need advice, my husband is joining the army!?
You can start by letting him get ready for it himself. No offense, but he's not going to have his wife with him in boot camp to hold his hand.I need advice, my husband is joining the army!?
Hello,
Actually, all you need to do is:
#1. Learn all about the US Army so you can understand what the Army will require your husband to do.
First step is to read all on the Army website:
www.goarmy.com
#2. Write him letters each day that he is in basic army training or as the army likes to call it these days: BCT (Basic Combat Training). No matter what you call it it is still BASIC TRAINING.
#3. Learn to have lots of patience as an Army wife. Remember, the Army ALWAYS comes first before the family. When he goes on deployment he goes. You need to learn to take care of all the household 'honey-do's' on your own.
#4. You can have a great Army life as a family IF you do not resent the Army in your personal life. Take advantage of all the activities on the Army Post and make lots of Army wives girlfriends. They help make the day better.
Oh, don't worry: your husband will become ARMY STRONG!
Best wishes,
Larry Smith
SMSgt, USAF (Ret.)
First Sergeant
My husband is also joining the army. And the way im preparing him is, basically letting him know how it is. Well, im prior service army. So, what i tell him is definitely from my experience. I guess what you could do is let him know that he'll be alright. The Drill sergeants is gonna yell and get all in his face but that's just temporary. When he graduate from Basic and AIT. It won't be as tough when he goes to his new duty station.
you can't do anything to prepare him, because it is a situation unlike anything else. He will have to go through it on his own with help from the other recruits, not you. If he is able to handle it he will be a proud graduate and the member of the armed forces. Unfortunately for you this is something you will not be able to be involved in. The best thing you can do is write him letters frequently while he is in bootcamp so he know's your out there supporting him.
I know this may sound wired. But tell him to find out why the army will have him do the things they till him to do, he will understand more of the millitary is and know if it is truly what he belives in not what they front and make it out to be.
tell him suck it up and don't take things personal and do exactly what the drill sgt says and don't take the easy way out and make excuses!!!
It's not to hurt him but make him stronger.
All you have to do is keep him motivated until he is ready to ship for basic. Once he is in there make sure you write him encouranging letters and send pics when you can. At this point he has made his mind up and all you have to do is be his motivation. Best of luck to you all
Get ready to don the black at his funeral and tell the boys how brave daddy was to go kill the bad muslims.
You'd have to have rocks in your head to live with a spouse who thought their JOB came first. Who gives a **** about the army. Bunch of white privilidged sons-of-bitches private army that goes off to protect their precious oil.
Go ARMY! Hell yeah.
Don't let him he will only realize after he has signed up what a mistake he has made. The only career even worth considering in the army is as an officer with a high up to sponsor you.
Just tell him your thought and fears, and tell him you will support him no matter what he decideds. that all you can do
You needn't do anything.
What is his MOS?
You can start by letting him get ready for it himself. No offense, but he's not going to have his wife with him in boot camp to hold his hand.I need advice, my husband is joining the army!?
Hello,
Actually, all you need to do is:
#1. Learn all about the US Army so you can understand what the Army will require your husband to do.
First step is to read all on the Army website:
www.goarmy.com
#2. Write him letters each day that he is in basic army training or as the army likes to call it these days: BCT (Basic Combat Training). No matter what you call it it is still BASIC TRAINING.
#3. Learn to have lots of patience as an Army wife. Remember, the Army ALWAYS comes first before the family. When he goes on deployment he goes. You need to learn to take care of all the household 'honey-do's' on your own.
#4. You can have a great Army life as a family IF you do not resent the Army in your personal life. Take advantage of all the activities on the Army Post and make lots of Army wives girlfriends. They help make the day better.
Oh, don't worry: your husband will become ARMY STRONG!
Best wishes,
Larry Smith
SMSgt, USAF (Ret.)
First Sergeant
My husband is also joining the army. And the way im preparing him is, basically letting him know how it is. Well, im prior service army. So, what i tell him is definitely from my experience. I guess what you could do is let him know that he'll be alright. The Drill sergeants is gonna yell and get all in his face but that's just temporary. When he graduate from Basic and AIT. It won't be as tough when he goes to his new duty station.
you can't do anything to prepare him, because it is a situation unlike anything else. He will have to go through it on his own with help from the other recruits, not you. If he is able to handle it he will be a proud graduate and the member of the armed forces. Unfortunately for you this is something you will not be able to be involved in. The best thing you can do is write him letters frequently while he is in bootcamp so he know's your out there supporting him.
I know this may sound wired. But tell him to find out why the army will have him do the things they till him to do, he will understand more of the millitary is and know if it is truly what he belives in not what they front and make it out to be.
tell him suck it up and don't take things personal and do exactly what the drill sgt says and don't take the easy way out and make excuses!!!
It's not to hurt him but make him stronger.
All you have to do is keep him motivated until he is ready to ship for basic. Once he is in there make sure you write him encouranging letters and send pics when you can. At this point he has made his mind up and all you have to do is be his motivation. Best of luck to you all
Get ready to don the black at his funeral and tell the boys how brave daddy was to go kill the bad muslims.
You'd have to have rocks in your head to live with a spouse who thought their JOB came first. Who gives a **** about the army. Bunch of white privilidged sons-of-bitches private army that goes off to protect their precious oil.
Go ARMY! Hell yeah.
Don't let him he will only realize after he has signed up what a mistake he has made. The only career even worth considering in the army is as an officer with a high up to sponsor you.
Just tell him your thought and fears, and tell him you will support him no matter what he decideds. that all you can do
You needn't do anything.
What is his MOS?
I need advice about husband ?
Well, first of all.. My husband told me he is not going to his moms house today. I made a meal for dinner and then waiting for him to come over to house and then he is starting to tell me he wants to go to his mom's house. I said ';I thought you were not going there today and you told me you are going there tomorrow?!'; I wanted to be alone with him and watching movie together and then he is starting to tell me ';My grandmother were going to pay movie for 8:45pm'; I told him to go there tomorrow. He went to his mom's house straight 3days this week and i told him to stay with me today and then i told him '; if you really want to go there then go to your mom's house and stay there as long as you want'; He is starting to telling me '; You are very crazy and sick girl'; . I said '; I am very crazy and sick girl because of i am telling you to go to your mom's house?'; I can't believe he is talking to me in that way or is this my fault? I need advice about him?I need advice about husband ?
Either he is going to his Mom's because there is a problem there or he is going out on you. You could call his mom during the week, and get yourself an invite over to find out the truthI need advice about husband ?
sounds like he is hiding something or he is just stressed and needs to think before he speaks. we all think that the man is supose to be perfect casue there the man but i know you can remember a day or two where you didnt talk to him repectfully so forgive and forget and talk it out
Go with him and see why he is so interested in going over there. Did his Dad pass away, or is his Mom single?
You married a mama's boy..sorry
Either he is going to his Mom's because there is a problem there or he is going out on you. You could call his mom during the week, and get yourself an invite over to find out the truthI need advice about husband ?
sounds like he is hiding something or he is just stressed and needs to think before he speaks. we all think that the man is supose to be perfect casue there the man but i know you can remember a day or two where you didnt talk to him repectfully so forgive and forget and talk it out
Go with him and see why he is so interested in going over there. Did his Dad pass away, or is his Mom single?
You married a mama's boy..sorry
I need advice: My husband is very family oriented but my mother in law's house is CRAMPED (please read)?
At his mothers house (a double wide trailor) there is his mother, stepfather, older brother, brothers girlfriend, her baby (1 yr old). And then when we visit it is me and him, our baby (8mo) and two big dogs. His brother / brother girlfriend have been living their for about a year since he got out of jail and everyone said they'd be out by now, but they're NOT. I am a stay at home mom, and am used to being in a low key environment in my own home, when I go there I feel uncomfortable, and he wants to stay there for TWO WEEKS, I can't stand it, what should I do? Please don't be rude I need some serious advice, what woud you do? Like I said his family is very close.I need advice: My husband is very family oriented but my mother in law's house is CRAMPED (please read)?
Personally, I would compromise - stay there for a week and then go home, while he can stay for an additional week. My family lives in a different country and I take lots of time off when I go visit them; my husband can't get as much time off, so he goes with me for 1-2 weeks, then goes home, and I stay with my family for another couple of weeks.I need advice: My husband is very family oriented but my mother in law's house is CRAMPED (please read)?
Only 4 hours away? How nice. Well, sounds like he can always go visit his mom on his own, too. I wish I lived 4 hours away from my parents... For me it's more like 24 hours. Ugh.
Would he make himself uncomfortable for you for two weeks?
Sometimes its not all about making sure the both of you are happy. Sometimes its about sacrificing our own comfort for the ones we love. Especially in this case, it's only temporary. Suck it up and you will be his hero.
WOW~ I would get a hotel room. That is way to many people in such close quarters. How does everyone fit? How many bed rooms are there? Like your supposed to sleep on the floor? NO WAY.
2 weeks in a hotel would be very expensive...but if I were you I would suggest a compromise with your husband. Stay in their house the first week, then a hotel the next. Make it a fun thing for his family...get a hotel with an indoor pool, kids will love it. Offer to have everyone over for a pizza and swim party one night...that way you can contribute to some of the fun and cost of feeding everyone, you get SOME space...and the little kids will have a blast!
Personally, I would compromise - stay there for a week and then go home, while he can stay for an additional week. My family lives in a different country and I take lots of time off when I go visit them; my husband can't get as much time off, so he goes with me for 1-2 weeks, then goes home, and I stay with my family for another couple of weeks.I need advice: My husband is very family oriented but my mother in law's house is CRAMPED (please read)?
Only 4 hours away? How nice. Well, sounds like he can always go visit his mom on his own, too. I wish I lived 4 hours away from my parents... For me it's more like 24 hours. Ugh.
Report Abuse
Would he make himself uncomfortable for you for two weeks?
Sometimes its not all about making sure the both of you are happy. Sometimes its about sacrificing our own comfort for the ones we love. Especially in this case, it's only temporary. Suck it up and you will be his hero.
WOW~ I would get a hotel room. That is way to many people in such close quarters. How does everyone fit? How many bed rooms are there? Like your supposed to sleep on the floor? NO WAY.
2 weeks in a hotel would be very expensive...but if I were you I would suggest a compromise with your husband. Stay in their house the first week, then a hotel the next. Make it a fun thing for his family...get a hotel with an indoor pool, kids will love it. Offer to have everyone over for a pizza and swim party one night...that way you can contribute to some of the fun and cost of feeding everyone, you get SOME space...and the little kids will have a blast!
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)