Relationship Advice.. Husband just snapped..?

We're young, I'm 24, he's 22, relationship is excellant, always has been, although he's been a bit immature at times, he's still a really great guy and provider. He quit smoking 2 weeks ago and has overall been doing really well with it, wasn't grumpy at all, used the gum. Last night, we made dinner, things were fine, was going to go to the store, then just snapped within a second, it was like he got possessed and was like ';i need a cigarette'; and stared at me with these eyes I've never seen before, even grabbed my wrist really tight, then he went into like a destruction mode, ripping up papers, cutting stuff up, used a pocket knife and ruined our computer desk, and pretty much locked himself into a room and told me to ';leave me the F alone';, which I did, thinking he'd sleep it off and today would be fine, but then ignored me all this morning too.. I don't know what to do or what happened? He was fine, then BAM, crazy and I did nothing, yet he's taking it out on me.. advice?? Help??Relationship Advice.. Husband just snapped..?
nicotine addict and just like an addict getting over an addiction he is going through withdrawals and detoxing.





Though what you describe is a little extreme it's like any addiction he needs help.








There's a smokers helpline and other ways to help him get through the roughest period





I have heard the patches work well but i am not entirely sure





His Doctor May be able to help him as well. As They May be able to direct you to something or give him something that neither of you may have thought ofRelationship Advice.. Husband just snapped..?
Sure it was only cig's? Sounds extremely immature or withdrawl from something like crack.
DO NOT LET HIM GET AWAY WITH THAT!!!! He needs to get help, so do you. I've been there. It's not about the ciggs. It's his inability to control his actions. He'll apologize sooner or later, but let him know in no way will YOU ever let him behave this way again.
He's a nicotine addict. Just like a heroine addict he is without his drug. Stopping cigarettes is just as hard or harder than stopping heroine. No kidding.





If he has such violent outbursts, you should take evasive action. Tell him you won't put up with that kind of behavior, leave when he acts like that.
Go visit your Mother and tell him when he come to his senses then you will come home.
It seems like to me that your husband is just having withdrawl attacks from not smoking. To a usualy smoker who is trying to quit smoking..two weeks without a cancer stick seems like to long especially if he used to smoke when he gets upset or something to that nature. I am not saying to look past his actions for acting out like he did, but take in consideration what he's going thru even if you never smoked a newport in your life, its prolly hard for him and he might need a lil understanding from your part. I don't think he meant to take it out on you, it juss that he must not know how to trigger his anger a different way. When he acts like that, just get up and politely leave the room, or infact leave the house, come back later on in the evening close to dinner time. Cook some dinner and eat..maybe try to talk to him after he has calm down and see if the both of you can compromise on the sitiuation, let him know how you feel about the way he has been acting and let him know that if he continues to act like this then its best that the both of you find an alternative to work this sitiuation out..maybe counseling. hey it happen to the best of use, but whatever you do, don't allow him to continue to grab on you or anyting like that and you not do anything about it. Good luck Either way
It's the cigarettes... trust me. I've seen it happen, hell, I've done while trying to quit. Smoking is an incredible addiction and typically it's not until 6 months after you quit that you snap... he just snapped sooner!





Have you thought of getting him to the doctor and getting him a prescription for chantix. It blocks the receptors in the brain so that your brain thinks you have had a smoke, even though you haven't. Makes it so much easier to quit without all the withdrawal symptoms and such. I would suggest you get it for him ASAP.





It can be pricey, but some insurances cover it. Either way, it's worth the $75-$150 it might cost you and if he's already quit, then technically, it's cheaper than the cigs were costing.





He would take it for 3 months then be done.





But please don't kid yourself that it can't be the smokes, cause is can be. I had a friend who went crazy and trashed her whole house one time trying to quit. Another friend of mine would just break down into these fits where all she would do was cry and cry and cry when she was trying to quit.





It's a crazy addiction... so just keep being supportive and get him the chantix!!!!
yeah...there's a psychological term for this...HE'S F***ING CRAZY..get out NOW while you still can!!!
ouch, this sounds like to mental abuse, I quit smoking cold turkey and I was a pretty heavy smoker for 10 years, every body has the chance to control what they do and what comes out of there mouth. I hope you don't exscue this behavior and if you do you just let him know that he can act this way and nothing will come about it.
his issue is deeper than cigs. may be a red flag for you. proceed with much caution!!





I Have never smoked so i am not sure of the process.