my husband is a drug addict... he was in rehab in august when we had our first little boy. he came home in september and we moved into an apartment now in october he started using again and staying out all night. i never thought he was cheating just using. about two weeks ago i moved out took all my stuff and only did it to give him a wake up call because i love him very much and i really cant live without him i just wanted him to get clean. well he hasnt called me at all!! not even one time and thats so unlike him he hasnt even called to check on the baby. yesterday his mom saw him and he had a hicki on his neck. then when i was at her house yesterday he called from some girls phone and he was just having a great time like they are in a relationship and were on a date. then she spent the night at our apartment with him last night his mom called this morning and he answered her phone. i feel like i want to die what do i do now i never wanted to lose my husband. especially to another girl who knows he is married by the way... i9 feel like im losing the love of my life and im the one who left but i never wanted it to be permanant how do i let my husband know that i love him and this is not what i want when he doesnt even call me? please help !!I feel so broken hearted i could die please give advice! husband cheating?
the love of your life!? get rid of this freakin loser! have some pride woman.I feel so broken hearted i could die please give advice! husband cheating?
The best thing for you and your child is to get out of there permanently and never EVER look back! Clearly he does not care about you enough to be back into using and to be out sleeping around. Your son and you don't need to be dealing with this. You can do better. It may be hard but it will be worth it in the long run. Take some time and get to know a REAL man who will give you and your son the love and respect you need!
Get the book ';Unsweetined'; by Jodi Sweetin (former Full House actress).
She led a life of alcohol and drugs for years. Her and her police officer husband eventually divorced over it. She later went on to meet a new man, get married, have a child, and turn her life around.
They won't change until they decide to, or something makes them change.
I stopped reading at *my husband is a drug addict.* Please get away from him.
I would run this guy off for good! is this someone you really want around your child?
jenn dear ..you left for a reason stick to your guns you can't just think of you you have to think of the baby too . want your kid around a drugged out person ? HELL NO YOU DON'T him being so quick to move onto another tells you where his heart is at . and its not with you or the baby its with his drugs if you went back nothing would change . you might even get aids or some other std . your wake up call you wanted to give him is really a wake up call for you . you sound like a nice girl YOU can do better for you and your baby
You love him but he does not love you like that ...it is awful to realize someone does not love you but you thought they did. Could you do this to him? No probably not. He is showing the signs of not really having ever loved himself or anyone else...save your child from this depiction of love, it will be hard I know. You are worth loving.
Wow you finally made the best decision you could have and left him but already changed your mind. He is an addict that only thinks of himself. You can't change him, he has to want to change. Obviously he called your bluff. Let him have his drugs and girlfriend. You deserve better and are only wasting time crying over this man. Some day hopefully he will come to his senses and stop using the drugs, but you will be gone and living your life.
First off, you should of told him to move out. You should not have moved out. That's your house, and you have every right to be there. Second, you need to worry about the well being of your child and yourself. This person is not your husband right now. He's just looking for his next high. You need to stick to your guns and tell him he needs to get help before he can come back. You are just enabling him to do whatever he wants and come back. I'm sure he's told you many times before that he loves you, and it won't happen again, and it did. If you love him, yourself, and your child you will take those steps and not go back on your boundaries, or else he will keep walking over you. He has to WANT to get help, you can't do it for him. He needs to fix himself before you can work on your relationship. Good luck.
I agree with the above answers. First of all, you need to find some self-respect, because obviously he doesnt have any for himself OR for YOU and your baby. You dont deserve to be treated like that, so dont go back looking for more abuse and neglect.
What kind of message would this be sending to your son, as he gets older seeing his dad high on drugs, neglecting him and YOU. You have to know deep down inside that this is NOT a good situation and you need to rid yourself of him.
he is a drug addict that is running his life this other woman is pro able a drug user to he thinks he has hit the jackpot with her going along with the drug use,you did the right thing leaving him its called tough love he will realize what he has lost but it may be to late when he does you have to take care of yourself and your child. he has to decide for his self what he loves the most you or the drugs you cant choose for him
What do you mean you can't live without him? You did that the whole time he was in rehab.
You have a child you need to think about. That little boy does not need to be around a drug addict.
Your husband will never be the man, mate and father you want and need him to be. NEVER.
It's time to say good bye and mean it so you can start over with a really good guy who loves your son and loves you.
You can do this. That guy is worthless and I think deep down you know that. You can do better and don't make the same mistake twice.
He actually started cheating on you when he chose drugs over you!! As hard as it will be, give him the boot!! You don't need such a toxic relationship ruining your life nor your baby's life. You are obviously still holding on to the romantic past. But look at who he has become. If you go back, he will never respect you and just keep using you as a doormat.
Good luck!! And stay away from him!!
If your husband is the love of your life, I feel sorry 4 your life! No offense meant, but U needa lose your husband and get yourself and your child the hell out quickly. Drug use and infidelity are 2 values U by all means should NOT expose your child 2!
All the best with your life!
Timothy
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If he is a drug addict she doesn't really have him either. He is married to the drugs first and formost. It doest matter what drugs he is using. I strongly suggest you go to an ALANON or NARANON meeting nearest you. I can't make this a stronger suggestion. I am a credentialed Substance abuse counselor and worked in the field of addiction for 20 years. Please get yourself to an ALANON meeting. This will at least save your life and your babies life. May or may not save his but you have to be the responsible one here and now. Get to a meeting. Run to a meeting. ALANON is for family members of the addict/ alcoholic. Please even if you have to take your baby with you. You need minimally 6 meetings just like your baby needs formula milk to survive his disease of addiction. Don't worry about another woman she is probably just using with him and possibly giving him $$ to continue using. He cares more about the drugs then any human being and he is presently in the disease of addiction.
Oh yes, I imagine all little girls imagine their prince charming to be a drug addicted liar who cheats...
Huh - I must have been asleep the day they taught us that... I guess I better clarify this with my little girl - how should I break it to her: Honey, mommy made a big mistake.. you know all that silly tak about not accepting bad treatment from people and not giving your heart away to a person with issues - you know how I say you want a partner not a project? well, baby - mommy was wrong.. go find some down on his luck loser who takes drugs, lies to you, cheats on you and stays out all night and will be irresponsible - and beg him, cry over him, wish him to stay in your life - because all those honest, reliable, appreciative, non-cheating men out there are wasting your time.
when you try mixing a drug addict and someone who is straight it will never work out, because the drugs always seem to win out over reason.He was already doing bad things before you left. He is having a great time because he is probably with someone who shares his habit.
I don't think he's cheating maybe he's just so depressed beacase the drugs it could be that he maybe needs time on his own but he will come round he's just stressed cause of all his problems with his drug addict i think you should just give him time for a bit he will come round.
you need to let rid of that looser hes not worth your time .
How dare you question your drug addict husband's cheating?. I bet you are using that money to buy baby formula instead of giving it to him for his drugs. How can you be so inconsiderate?
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