Please answer - I need Advice - Husband being extremely rude!!!!?

I'm 25 weeks pregnant with our second son. my husband and i have been together for about 4 yrs. for the past few months my husband and i have been at each others throats at least once a week. the other days are fine, but when we argue its not fair to our 2 yr old son. i know i'm not innocent but its not just me and its not just my hormones!


he is driving me nuts with this, i love him and i don't want to be without him but i feel i can't keep doing this over and over again. the arguements are stupid and pointless. he NEVER does anything wrong, everything is always someone else's fault (usually mine). i don't know what to do.





my question is: Is anyone else going through this or has gone through this and once the baby was born everything was different





i know it doesn't help but he works nights and then stays up all day to take care of our son, so he gets all of 4 hrs sleep a day except for his days off. I understand this but it doesn't give him a excuse to treat me like like ****!


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I don't answere many of these, but you need something better than some teeen home from school today, telling you to bail%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;





There's your first problem.... children before a really bonded relationship... Hon, this is soooo common as to be almost formula--- and here's why:





You went from being his sexy, lusty bed babe to mother and housekeeper... and he went from being the stud, the man, Mr. Erection to father and provider... oh, good. Why would you think you could retain this same relationship when you are now about to add a fourth person, into your cozy marriage?????????





Hon, kids aren't bonding, they are divisive, and as you have stated, your arguments are stupid, and pointless... common. And, you guys are splitting the care of these kids, and have no time to just be together. Sweetie, your relationship is 180 degrees from where it was... no wonder he treats you like S* it.... it happens. And as well, you treat him that way... kids do that, anyone in your house will raise your levels of anxiety, and this is what is the result.





Hon, you never were told in hs, that bayyyybeeees were not bonding... We never shared with you how hard you would have to work, and how stressed your marriage would become with children way before year five.





But, hardly the point. You , and he need a few sessions of counseling to do several things... first to find time to renew your bond regularly, and to fully understand that both of you now must step to the plate and become parents to children who never asked to be born.... seek a couples counselor, and if you don't like the first one, find a second. It is no longer about him, or about you, it is about becoming the best parents on the planet.





And with work, you can do it. Right now, your marriage is damaged... badly. Look at all the questions on here about single moms in disfunctional marriages and questions about what do I do now. Before your marriage is any more eroded, get some help. There is no shame in not knowing what to do when you have never been there before... and you have never been here before.... Of course you love him... he he loves you. Now fix your marriage---- the best way to get out of a hole, hon, is to stop digging!!!!!!!





Stop digging with rude remarks, and learn how to solve these problems without rage and resentment, which each of you will soon have tons of for the other if this does not stop. Arguing is erosive... get it fixed. Get into a few sessions.... probably 4 would do it.Please answer - I need Advice - Husband being extremely rude!!!!?
Just work through it. Keep strong and your thoughts positive. You will get through this. His lack of sleep is not going to help the situation nor is your pregnancy hormones so give it time and don't give up trying to resolve the fights and keeping the peace. It'll pass and get better.
well..... its just a phase he's tired and he does'nt want to be bothered like dont argue if u know that if u say something thats gonna grt him angry just dont say nothing at all.....~and if u are arguing just be like babe im sorry just orget about~ ...... its obvious that he is stressed :+(
I have gone through this and unfortunately things got worse%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;getting divorced now! But if your husband was fine during your first pregnancy then things should be ok. You do have to remember that you both are under a little stress. The best thing to do is if you feel like you are getting upset...take a time out and cool off. It's not healthy for anyone in your family to be involved in stupid arguments.
he must be driving you insane beacuse its causing you memory loss.....you asked this already a few times now!





well just to give you an insight on here, most people on here are regulars
I went thru it and I left. Not all marriages have to end though. Maybe if you go to some type of marraige therapy it will help your relationship before your new baby gets here. This should be an enjoyable time for you both, not stressful.





Maybe part-time child care is an option too, so he can get more sleep. He still shouldn't take it all out on you though. I know how it feels! Good luck!
Same answer as last time.
Men will NEVER understand what we are going through. my boyfriend got sick of me too when i was pregnant. and it just made him more mad when i would bring up my hormones. you just have to wait it out, and pick your battles. when he is being a dick, just give him a big grin, tell him he's right, and walk off. that will get under their skin like you wouldnt believe. and wont be hard on your son either.
not to play either side, but you have to remember that you get what you give in any situation.


you have to remember why you fell in love with him and remember he is a man with needs. men have certain needs as well as women, usually when you give them what they need ( and i dont just mean sex) you get more from them. i know how it feels to be pregnant and hormonal,,but try to stop and think before you act:)
We all go through things like this... men always thinks that it is the womans fault..... there is no excuse the way that he treats you..





Talking dont help, so I would take action.... act as though you dont even care anymore... he will soon see what it is like to be treated like that.
itl work out....eventualy
I think alot of us have been there but you know - sleep deprivation is BAD! If you are able, I would try to change that right away and see if this changes his mood.





Please do not be a doormat BUT do not fight in front of your kiddo - life is precious and they need to be kids as long as possible. You fight and they feel shame and think that they are at fault. They will become fighters and soon you will have a house full of angry people! So not be so concerned with who is wrong or right....Two parents fighting in front of the little one - BOTH wrong.
I smell trouble in the hills, this happened before my parents divorced. PLEASE work it out, for the sake of your kid, talk to him, go to counselling, and if you can't work it out, divorce amicably, not like my parents did, fcking ripping at each others throats for everything.





Freaking holidays sucked *** at my house lol, because my parents would always fight about who got me on what days.
YOU ARE ASKING TOO MUCH OF HIM





Get a sitter if you have to be gone. He needs


his sleep if he is working all night.





I would be afraid to leave my child with a


person who is sleep-deprived.





He might be nicer if he gets some rest.





You are pregnant and deserve certain considerations.


Just because he is not pregnant does not mean that


he does not deserve certain considerations...such as


sleep.





UPDATE: If he won't allow the child to be cared for outside of the home, then perhaps a family member or close friend can watch the child in the home....so he can sleep.
i work nights also-lack of sleep turns me into a ***!


if you can find a way to allow more sleep ,his temperment will improve.
he shouldnt have to watch the son during the day if he works at night. and if your working its called get a neighbor or daycare. gramma .. ok. he needs more rest. if he ends up getting hurt an accident because of over tired. its not going to be funny.


and with out his pay check its not going to be funny.


best to watch what you both say. cuz the littlest of things can bring it to a never ending battle. you could end up in divorce. and thats not cool either. now go give him a hug and rub his back and say your sorry your tired of this fighting. and then add your not always right . but come on weve got alot going here.. its called our lives.