I need advice about work, husband, family?

I am going to college part time right now because I only have these last two classes left before I transfer to another college. My husband wants me to get a job but everything I come across needs me to work both days and nights. (We have two boys) I can not trust the 16 yr old to watch him because he is very irresponsible and does bad stuff on purpose (like lock him in the closet) so he does not have to watch our 6 yr old. (he admitted that was why) Anyway, my husband sometimes does not get home from work till 8pm cause he does road construction and day care closes @ 6:30. When he gets laid off in the winter months times are hard but we always make it. I just don't know what to do. I feel guilty for wanting to be an at home mom and when I am going to school full time a job is very difficult. Also the 16 yr old his home schooled so I gotta spend time on him to make sure he does his work. How do I juggle it all?I need advice about work, husband, family?
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Simple...don't get a job. What ever part time job you get will most likely provide just enough money to pay for babysitting/daycare expenses. Is that worth it??
It is very difficult for moms to figure out what works best for them. Nobody can make a decision for you. Since you're asking for opinions, I'll tell you what I personally would do... I would put my own ambitions aside and focus only on family. You want your children to succeed in caring for themselves in the future, because you won't always be there for them to fall back on. Your sixteen year old needs to get a job and start learning responsibility. He should know better by now than to mistreat a younger sibling. That should not be tolerated for a second! I would sit down with your husband and figure out a good budget and cut out anything that is not necessary, like cable/ satellite. (Depending on where you live, a set of rabbit ears may get decent reception.) Maybe buy a phone card instead of having long distance on your home phone, then cut back to basic service only. I would still keep the internet because it's extremely useful in homeschooling. When you cut back on spending as much as possible, the sacrifice will be so worth it. It simplifies life and helps you focus on those you love. Start having fun as a family and showing them that time together is what matters to you most. Hope this helps! Again, just my opinions...
First thing's first....congratulations and good job going back to school and trying to juggle everything. Hang in there....something will work out. Have you thought about maybe getting a waitressing job just for the weekends? Also, I worked at a local flower shop while I went through college. They worked around my classes. ???? You may be able to find something like that. Also, discuss this with your husband and see if ya'll can work something out.





Good luck! :-) Hang in there!
sounds like you are very busy, and your husband is going to have to understand you are doing all you can do, cost of child care would offset any money you could bring home from a part time job, and good you realize that a education will net you more money in the long run,





your 16y yo will have to also learn to buck up and help out, something your husband should be teaching the boy, he is old enough to find a summer job too, get him off his butt.





Your husband being the man of the house needs to have a heart to heart with the 16 yo, I would beat the living SH** outta my 16 yo if he ever locked his brother in a closet just because he didn't want to watch him,
I would concentrate on school and family. IF you add work to that, you are going to be spread way to thin to manage all effectively. I think with your 16yr old being homeschooled, there isn't much of a choice for you to be able to NOT be home. He needs the appropriate schooling, and for you to stay on top of it, or he will have a rough life. Sometimes family love is more important than money, and if you are making ends meet, than just try and stick it out as long as you can without having to work.
Yikes. First off, I'm sorry that you are overwhelmed by this because I know how hard it is to juggle everything in life.





I question why your son is home schooled? Can he go to a regular school? From what you describe above, he may need socialization to learn what is acceptable and not acceptable behavior. 16 year olds should be capable of watching their younger sibling.





Since this is not an option, can your younger son go to a grandparent or friends house while you go to school? I would explain to your husband that with an education you can make alot more money and it will pay off in the end.





I would look into resources at your local united way chapter or recreation center. Perhaps they have programs too.
First of all your 16 year old clearly needs anger management, at 16 he should be able to watch the younger siblings for a few hours without resorting to locking a child in a closet. I suggest you seek therapy for him ASAP because the problem will only escalate to him abusing a partner or someone else's child in the future. I also suggest that until he CAN be responsible the 16 year old go without a few things such as driver's license (If he's not responsible enough to watch a child he's not responsible enough to drive), computer access, telephone, game system. If he can't help the family by watching his younger sibling then he doesn't deserve access to these things. As for homeschooling...again that puts responsiblity into his lap. I know a single mom who worked TWO jobs and was still able to homeschool her kids. Some of it was done via telephone and she was able to work that out with our employer. Her five year old was more responsible than your 16 year old by far and was able to not only complete kindergarten but skipped 1st grade all together. Your 16 year old obviously needs to be MADE to be responsible instead of getting a free ride.