Ive read some of your other questions and it sounds like your going through alot of issues. But you need to wake up your not satisfing your husband sexually then he will go else where to get satisfied and trust me it won't be through porn. Your husband is playing foosball and your the foosball. WAKE UP!!!I am really upset with my husband, any advice?
is it possible that the truth might in his mind get him in trouble, where as telling you some thing you might like to hear seems easier. I do not know some times when we are under stress we revert to childish ways and part of that is telling tales. As adults our reasoning is truth be dammed, and some times it is. If it is a small fib, do not blow it out of proportion, You know him well enough that when the truth is imperative he would tell you the truth
It sounds to me like you believe to much of what he says... If he is using something stupid like that to cover up a lie then makes up another one, then he's prob' lie'n about something bigger......
He should be truthful... thats a sign of trust and a sign that he wants you involved in his life. Its a little disconcerting that he doesn't tell you the truth on something so small. It would make me wonder what he's covering up that may be bigger.
To play devil's advocate, if I was married to someone who constantly asked where I was and what I was doing every minute of the day, I, too, may develop a ';reflex response'; to deflect or push the sense of control back a little.
I think you need to discuss this in detail with him. The fact that you entered this question leads me to believe my first thoughts on his cover-up mentality. You may even wish to take this to a family therapist to get to the root of the issue. I hope you act on this - it will improve your lives together to deal with it sooner than later!
He does it because you let him.....Tell him about himself and just ask him just what you are asking us.....Why can't you just tell the truth......
My ex was the same..
One day when we were split up, he fessed up that he ued to sneak out.. I still question cheating.. he still says no.. I says yes.. but as long as I have my health, that's all I'm concerned about
But yeah.. he said he used to work late shifts.. one time on an earlier shift I got sick of waiting.. and I called him... 8PM...PM... he was into a pub... kinda early ain't it???
But that's where he was.. with other 'workers' I say bolognie.. but who knows.. I'm still bitter over it all.. and when I used to ask him questions.. he was like a cat on hot rocks, and he never seen any wrong into doing so.
When you sneak out.. and lie..that becomes a problem.
Meeting him at the door naked ain't going to soolve tardiness, I've tried it all and he still kept being late, etc.
Keep an eye out for it.. don't be too overprotective about it. Goodluck, and don't stress too much... stress is soooooo bad.. I actually had ulcers over worrying cause of him
Eeyah, maybe it's somethin we learn as kids, cause i know i did that alot with my parents when i was young, childish stuff. Cause nagging has got to be the most ANNOYING thing on the planet, especially when it's over stuff we deem completely demeanial, like playing a game of foosball after a meeting. So if we assume our mother..er...wife or whatever is gonna get mad at us and give us the ';why didn't you come home 3 seconds past the time you were SUPPOSED to come home...then yea that lil strategy of his is gonna commence. Cause we don't feel like arguing over why we have to be home EXACTLY at a time point unless it's for something extremely important, like we're still living with our parents. But i bet you 5 dollars if you said be here at 6:30, i gotta little suprise waitin for you involving no panties and some liquor his *** will be there an hour early!
You need to ask him and hopefully he will answer with honesty. A marriage is based on Commitment, Honesty, Respect, Trust and Love. If one of this are missing it's not good. He probably tells you lye's because he knows you are gonna get upset. Try to cool off a little!!!
maybe because you know too much about what he is doing, where he is going and what time he should be home. my god, i'd start lying too if my wife asked me everytime where i was going and with who. she trusts me fully and therefore I HAVE NO reason to lie to her. i would lie to you to, just to get a few extra hours with my friends then to come home and get grilled by a wife who checked on me constantly.
He wants to hang out with his friends and he thinks by just telling you that he is running late because of work will make everything alright and you will not get upset. But what most men dont realize is when they lie about why they havent made it home yet they only make you wonder why they are lieng to you and then the first thing that pops up into your head is that he is cheating and that might not even be the case but you now have all these doubts because he had to lie about his reasons for being late.
I've been through that too... And usually, their main reason? Is it's because they don't want to hear any blah-blah-blahs from us and they're just avoiding fights and arguments.
Are you keeping a close check on his whereabouts all the time. If so, he just needs space. If he's lying to cover up, maybe he thinks it'll be easier on him than giving an account to you about his every move.
Try being the kind of wife he will be eager to come home to, not one he resents giving an account to.
There was no reason to lie.... He's either a compulsive liar... Meaning he would lie when the truth would be more productive....
I think he may be covering for some other activity... I'm not necessarily saying he's cheating, but he may be off doing something that you've gotten onto him about...
The best way is to show him how much you love him by meeting him at the door with a big hug and kiss... He doesn't have time to hide stuff when you meet him at the door.
He also may try to get to the bathroom to dispose of evidence.. Perfume smell, alcohol smell, panties out of his pocket...
If he is elusive or nervous that you might suspect something, he's going to try and avoid you...
hummm watch this i been in simpler situation i hated it too but it could be a sign of something else going on not saying that it is keep your eyes open honesty is a big part of a relationship
Not to excuse his lying, there is no excuse... but I would guess he lies because he thinks you will be upset about the truth. What do you think?
you know if more often you met him at the door naked, arms open, and legs spread you probably wouldn't be having this problem.
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