Army Wife Needing Advice...Husband Having Anxiety Attacks Over Pending Deployment?

My husband and I were married on May 25th, 2007. He just got out of Army bootcamp on May 18th, 2007. He is being deployed to Korea for a year to a year and a half on June 4th, 2007. He is having a very hard time dealing with/accepting this, and he is shutting me out and not talking to me about it. When I ask him about it, he gets very defensive and angry. I know that he's scared, and I know that it will hurt him to be away from his friends and family. But I don't know that the tension level he is experiencing is normal before deployment? Any advice would be great!!!!Army Wife Needing Advice...Husband Having Anxiety Attacks Over Pending Deployment?
Stress and anxiety are normal before deployments especially if it's his first deployment. However Korea is not a deployment it's called a hardship tour. If you all are married you can choose to go to Korea with him which my help with him being so uncomfortable. You would have to do quite a bit of work to go with him (well not WITH him but after him). I've heard a lot of different things about Korea some good and some bad it just depends on how much you like change. Your husband may just be scared of such a big change so soon after becoming active duty. You may just have to sit back and let him talk to you on his own terms and in his own time.





PS Welcome to the wonderful world of Army Wives!!!Army Wife Needing Advice...Husband Having Anxiety Attacks Over Pending Deployment?
Congratulations in your marriage. Try to understand him he is leaving behind his family and friends and going to a new place by himself were he doesn't know what to expect. Just wondering why aren't you going with him? Are you not aloud to go with him or you didn't know you can go? If you can go you should go with him maybe not know but later it will help him a lot to have you there with him and it will be a nice experience both of you can enjoy and experience together. My husband is in the Air Force and we just moved to Alaska I know having me here with him has helped him especially now that he found out he is going to Iraq. Just try to be there for him don't make him feel alone in this let him know you are there for him no matter where he is.
show motherly love to him., because you are his second mother and also treat him like a first child., which care u give to you child give that to him too.,make him mentally strong to overcome scare feeling., a wife cant do much but a mother can do! now you are his mother
It's normal My friend was a nervous wreck before he got deployed. because there is so much uncertainty its hard not to be. So be supportive but don't be one of those'; I'm sure everything is going to be alright'; people he doesn't want to hear that right now just be there and share his emotion with him try to feel what he's feeling and understand it.





This is something heis going to have to come to terms with on his own don't try to change his feelings for him.
Yeah its to be expected, he is being shipped out, and won't be with his family for a year+, anyone would be stressed out... I know its going to be hard, but you don't want to fight with him the last 3 days he will be home for awhile, so sit back and relax, and enjoy the next 3 days with him without stressing him out more than he already is!
deployments always suck...but for him to shut you out is crap, first of all it isnt gonna change the fact that hes leaving and second of all it isnt fair to you (doesnt he realize you are stressing out also??). the country is at war...why did he join the military if he didnt want to deploy--by the way korea isnt shooting at us right now so tell him to man up, it could be alot worse.
Tell him to take an easy. From fellow soldier to soldier tell him that Korea is not a bad place to go. As a matter of fact tell him I reenlisted to go back to Korea. It is a beautiful country and the people there are very friendly. He doesn't have to worry about anything while in Korea. It is normal before a deployment because of those reasons but it would make him feel better if he talked to Senior Personnel in his unit and if he is really worried he can google Camp Walker. It is a station in Korea that is gorgeous. Let him know that his fellow battle buddy wouln't steer him wrong in the matter. HOOAH.
I would imagine that it is normal, but I don't feel that it's fair to you for him to shut you out. He should be coming to you and telling you his fears. You two should be able to communicate about anything, or your marriage may not last!
My husband is in the marines and he has been deployed several times. He is currently waiting to deploy to Iraq, and it is very common for him to feel this way. Often the spouse being deployed will begin to distance themselves from you. It's not intentional, he isn't doing this to hurt you. But subconciously he thinks it will make the separation easier. Even though if you are going through what I am you will realize that it only makes things harder for you. He is very new to the military and is still getting adjusted. It is going to be a very hard time for him. He will want to be with you and not being able to will probably break his heart, but it will seem more like anger to you. Just remind him that you love him, and be there for him when he needs you!
was it a good idea joining the armed forces then??? he should have thought of that before joining up... perhaps he should see the camp psychiatrist!!! :D
at least it's not iraq. relax even men have fears about the future. reassure him u r 100% there but his crew will really be the ones watching his back.
First of all WAY cool that you got married on May 25, 2007 b/c SO DID I!!! YAY! Congratulations to you and your husband.





If he is having a difficult time coping with it perhaps you should speak with his chain of command. The Army will take care of their soldiers, so don't be afraid to ask about counseling or anything else they may offer.


I bet you're scared to, and there is NOTHING wrong with that, or with him being scared either.


Maybe they can post-pone deployment for him or just cancel it all together. GOOD LUCK either way!


I am proud of your husband and thankful to him for serving our country!