Need advice on husband and his female friend?

My husband has been hiding and deleting all his text messages from his new (5 month) female friend. He denies texting, calling, and seeing her at all hours of the day (the cell phone bills tells otherwise) and she denies it too (again, cell phone bill tells all!) I called them both out on it and said I'm tired of being treated as 2nd best to his female friend and it's totally disrespectful of both of them to be this shaddy. She says she's been nothing but a friend to both of us and that the problems I have with my husband are not caused by her. But all of the issues we have stem from her! And he says I'm over reacting.





I'm tired of always being compared to her. and I'm tired of always fighting for his attention.. Does she win? Or am I on the right track by calling them out on what's going on?Need advice on husband and his female friend?
You're better then I am...My man wouldn't dare to have some other female call him or text him. He wouldn't dare give his cell phone number out! Then for him to freaken compare you to her! Bull crap I would of stopped the friendship the moment that happened. They all say the same **** ';She's a lesbian'; like that's suppose to make a difference. I trust no man, so if the relationship wasn't from before we got together, there won't be a relationship with some other female!!!!! Does he mind you getting text from other men?Need advice on husband and his female friend?
If he's lying and deleting his text messages then he has something to hide. Most guys are going to tell you that you are over reacting because they don't want to talk about it. If it's important to you and you feel your being left out or even cheated on I think you are on the right track by calling them out on it.
you're on the right track for calling them out.





now you have to wonder what he's telling her based on her comment about your husband and your problems with him.





What do you want to do now? Do you want to share him with her? Or do you want your own man? Time to have a come to Jesus meeting with him and play hardball if you want to save your marriage. If you're done, then it's time to call the lawyer and get on with your life.
I like your spirit. You went straight to the source and his friend. You are not stupid and you know what's going on.





Please tell him its funny we didn't have this kind of problem until you started texting, calling and seeing her. (and you have proof)





Lay the smack down on both of them. Stop fighting for his attention. Tell if he thinks the grass in greener over on her side, it time for him to be over there.
This is hard. EMOTIONAL AFFAIR.





Ok, you need to tell him to knock it off or talk to a divorce attourney, cuz it is not going to get any better! Even if it is innocent, when someone lets themself get cloe to someone they are not married to, bad things happen... even if it's only losing interest in you, the more he sees her as ';perfect';. BEEN THERE. Over now, but I keep him on a short leash, andI still get sick of being compared to her every now and then....
For them to deny it and try to lie and make you feel like a dumb little girl...





They are defiantly having an affair.





If they had nothing to hide, then why are they going to such great lengths to hide it.





For her to say ';the problems with you and your husband...'; Oh hell no... she doesn't even need to be talking/thinking/knowing about any of y'all's personal affairs.





He's cheating... bust that bastard!
She all ready won. You are a smart girl, listen to your gut instinct. Lay down the law. He all ready lied to you and you proved it. So demand a lie detector test. Demand its either her or you. But be ready he might not choose you.
Wow.





You are a more patient person than I am.





I would of murdered both of them by now.





I don't come second best to my husband. Certainly not to some other women, that is for sure, nor should you!
you;ve already lost him .


pack your bags and let them have their fun cause he;ll crawl back and want you and you can laugh in his face.
He's screwing her....it's obvious. Sorry ma'am but you know it too.
it's disrespectful that he has so much intimacy with her.. and even if they are not screwing.. just the texting and talking is an insult.. you should be the one he is talking to all day if he needs advice or just chat.. you are his spouse... why should he have another bestfriend..


he is cheating.. and that's that..


so it's up to you if you want to continue with a rat like that... if you think that giving him an ultimatum will straight things up.. go ahead, but maybe you should not waste your time... he obviously doesn't care about you or else he would not hurt you defiantly meeting with that girl when he knows that is causing you pain...


it's your choice....
Emotional Affair


Blaming the other women is definitely the wrong track.





This is a problem between you and your husband.


Maybe he's a selfish dick, or maybe you have been abusing him for so long you have crushed all the love out of him. Since men tend to suffer in silence you might not even be aware of how long and how badly you have been hurting him.





He is not upholding his part of the marriage commitment either. Lying and deceit for any reason is abusive back towards you. Lying about a women is particularly nefarious.





Withdrawing what's left of your love now will push him further towards her. Once he trust you to satisfy his emotional needs he won't need to use her anymore.
Im going to agree with the rest of them...





even from a male point of view, it goes the same way if a woman was deleting the messages.





If the phone records show long and frequent communication between the pair then there's your evidence, what other reason would he have for spending all that time on the phone to this lady? and did you tell them you had seen the phone bill?





there are of course ways to catch the pair out, but you need to be as sneaky as they are being.





Do they work together?


Do they speak on computer? or just call and text?





you're right to think that something is going on, so trust your gut instinct!
she is better than you