So me and my husband had this horrible fight about nothing. It was really stupid. Anyways after the fight he left and didnt come home. I assume he has been at a hotel or friends house. I havent seen him for a week and we havent talked to each other for a week either. I am a vet and own my own vet practice; he is an architect. Can the crazyness of our jobs be getting in the way. I have tried to call him but nothing. Need help.Husband problems? Need advice.?
Seems that the worst fights are usually over the most insignificant things! This is just an indication of a more serious, underlying problem that remains unaddressed. You need to find out what this unresolved issue is. As for him staying away %26amp; out of touch for a WEEK?? Totally inexcusable!! If he were with a friend....a TRUE friend would call you %26amp; let you know he is safe, etc, so you wouldn't be worried. What are the chances he has a mistress?? Seems to me like the ';fight'; was simply the excuse he needed to ';escape'; the marriage. You need to start finding out what's going on %26amp; why. Divorce could be in your near future. Don't get caught blindsided - financially OR emotionally.Husband problems? Need advice.?
Both of you have jobs that indicate that you are educated but apparently you have never learned the art of fighting without hurting the other person. It isn't the jobs but your inability to discuss your problems. I assume you are leaving messages at his work since you don't know where he is. After a couple, that is too many. You may want him back but if you get him back, will you just have more stupid fights? You need professional counseling either alone or with him. I'm sorry to tell you that you are about to learn a serious lesson in life. The only thing you can do is go cruise and look for him but have a plan if you find him. He will probably not want the same old routine any longer. Good luck.
No doubt work interferes with relationships.I would go as far as to say that it,s the biggest destroyer of relationships.It is a big thing to leave the family home and unless he,s an exhibitionist he,s obviously upset as he hasnt answered your calls.Do you think perhaps he has another woman in tow and you,ve given him the excuse he was looking for to leave.No doubt with your other job as a teacher you didnt have much time to spend together.Perhaps he left because you are a pathological liar and cant spell
Dont talk to the friends,
If they've seen him, they aint telling.
Dont go to the office.
Bosses hate when you bring personal problems to the work place.
An option you could do is call one of HIS best friends that actually CARES for his well being. Tell him that you just want him back, for this all to work out. You dont want to live without him. Tell them that even if you havent seen him, when you do, relay the message.
Find a way to combine the work thing together,
tell him some of the crazy things (funny things even he would be amused by) at dinner or something.
Try to take a night that he is off and go out to a NICE dinner,
not a dollar menu.
But you have to stick to the jobs and try to deal with it.
Someone has to pay the bills.
He is punishing you by being gone and not answering. Training you for the future? Maybe your jobs are adding stress. Try having date night. Making more time for each other. He is the most important thing in your life and vise verse. Call everyone and tell them that you are worried. You need to know if he is ok! Don't try to call him anymore. Seems like he is playing games. I would be steaming mad at him for putting me through all this worry over nothing. He is acting like a child! You two need to go back to the basics of what brought you together in the first place. Or get a divorce and stop wasting your lives.
I wish you well and hope that you hear from him soon. This is crazy!
honey as painful as it is right now,let him go.if he comes back and wants to openly and honestly talk,not just about how wrong u are but for him to take some responsibility as well for his part in any problems.then get some counseling,if he doest want to work through it then your better off alone.i know how painful this must be,but he sounds really immature just from the little u wrote.focus on u,not him,take a good look at the mistakes u have made in the relationship and deal with u.if it doesn't work out with u and him at least u have worked on u,its always 2 peoples fault in all relationships when they tear apart.so then u will be ready when your heart is ready for a healthy happy relationship.just remember to work on fixing u,good luck
You should be consulting with him not yahoo answers. ';IF'; you cant do this, yall dont need to be together. You know that.
If my husband went away for a week and didn't talk to me, I would definitely think he is up to something. I don't know who started the fight, but if he did, it looks like he was looking for a reason to leave. I would do some serious checking up on him.
If he has been gone for over a week with no contact. I would call the police and file a missing person report. If you find out that he is ok, I would get a divorce. any person that is gone for over a week and will not call and say they are ok is not worth your love.
This guy is a loser and will never change. Put all his stuff in black sacks and leave them on the doorstep. This behavior is unforgivable and not how a married man should behave. You have done well in your life and can cope on your own and also find someone far better than him.
go to anywhere you think he will be.
you say hes your husband.
tell him that marriage is a sacrament and a promise in front of the lord
aak him does he really love you the same way he loved you when he said '; I Do'; when you was getting married
hope this helps
Silly me, I assumed a Veterinarian could read and write proper English!
Where did you go to school?
Oh and to answer the question - it sounds like you both need to grow up.
go to a marriage consular if you have to go by yourself
Ask his friends where he is
Find him
Apologize and compromise
I'd go to his office.
dump his sorry azz
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