Need advice about husband's flirty coworker?

My husband has someone on his staff who is going through a divorce. I've met her several times. She is pretty and all the single guys at the plant are after her.





Recently, my husband has had several business dinners and lunches with his bosses and staff. This is a common occurrence where he works. But I've noticed something. Not everyone can always attend. I always ask ';who was there';, and he'll tell me. There's usually a group of people including Anne (the person I mentioned). Lately the groups have gotten smaller and the other night, only Anne was there.





So my husband was out for a ';corporate'; dinner but only Anne was there. He is at least honest about it. He told me that some of the others were supposed to come, but couldn't make it.





Yet Anne is always there. And my husband. I am feeling ticked off and I have been making comments to him. My husband is handsome and successful and I can see her making a play for him.





I would just like him to skip a dinner once in a while. Am I just being too possessive here?Need advice about husband's flirty coworker?
Tell him that you trust him, but you still feel a uncomfortable. Honestly, I find it completely unacceptable that he should continue dinner alone with her (even if other people were ';supposed'; to show up). Let him know how you feel. Don't be a b!+(h about it or he'll get defensive. Just let him know that's not cool... and next time, maybe he could be the one that ';can't make it';.





In the meantime... think about what attracted you to your husband to begin with. Spark up y'all's romance and persue him... seduce him and make him feel desired. Even if nothing is going on... it still wouldn't hurt!! ;-)Need advice about husband's flirty coworker?
Tell me again why he never skips the business dinner and everyone else can? Business dinners or lunches are done with a majority attendance to discuss business outside of the office. It's not a social event. What kind of business are they discussing in between just the two of them? Is your husband and Anne the major decision makers of the company? If not, dinner is postponed at the office during office hours and before they proceed out. Fishy!
to be completely honest I dont think you have anything to worry about it.. I would be more worried if your husband wasn't telling you about it. the fact he is upfront and honest is definitely a good sign





here is an idea though, why don't you befriend her? Invite her around to dinner, make her a friend. then you can keep an eye on her. She will be less likely to try and steal your husband once she is friends with you (if that really is her intentions)
No way, women who are going through divorces are the ones to watch out for. Chances are she doesnt have a high opinion of marriage and she isnt concerned about yours. I would tell my husband my concerns and if he blows you off, explain how much it concerns you and not only is he looking like a dog in your book, but he has got to be to his co-workers also.
I'm sure most women in her situation would prefer to opt for the single guys who like her having just been through a divorce,i doubt she would want to risk being hurt again.





Keep an eye on the situation but its good that he is honest and just be proud that you have an honest,handsome and successful husband.
At least he is telling you.That is good.Just be blunt and ask him to look you directly in the eyes and say,';Do you have any romantic or emotional interest in Anne?See what he says.Watch hs body language.If he says,there isn't anything there,then let it go.


If there is,the truth will come out eventually sooner or later.





But trust in him,otherwise.





P.S. Let him know you trust in him.=)
You sense something here and that can never be wrong, Tell him its a problem that you dont like this set up, Show up at the plant more any behavouir you dont like call her on it.





Can you attend these dinners? maybe you can pick him up afterwards, either way you need to watch the witch..
get all dressed nice and pretty and go to his work to have lunch with him and make it a surprise and show him that you are still interested in him and show her that you are around and make sure you still stroke his ego men cheat not for the sex but because the other females stroke the ego wow his hot wow thanks for that
I know how you feel. So what you should maybe try is finding out where your husband and the others going to be at and pay them a visit. Or maybe you can say to the Miss. anna why don't you come over for dinner or have a dinner party
You have every right to be suspicious. Ask him about it, just don't sound like your making an assumption otherwise he'd feel that your doubting him.
if you let him out the house, does he have to wear the leash, or is the collar enough to let everyone else know who he belongs too?
So because she is going through a divorce, she must be after your husband. Talk about insecurity? Other people are usually at these meetings, but this time, only she came. Either you trust him, or you don't. But, you married him, he made the vows, don't think because she is going through a divorce that she has no morals. She works with him. If you don't trust him, talk to his coworkers about these meetings, but I think that would be the kiss of death to your relationship. Investigate if you have reason to investigate, but dont just to conclusions, just because she is divorcing. That alone is insulting to people who are divorcing cheating spouses.
Maybe she has an idea. Like, your hubby is safe (compared to the vultures at work) and he has something she admires. It might be that he is an example of the fact that people can be happily married, maintain their integrity and serve as a positive and affirming example. This might give her something to hold on to (values) when her world is crumbling (divorce).





I'm sure that would be a nice explanation, but I doubt it. Most women I've encountered in that situation go for the whole package. I would not trust her, but I wouldn't jump her case either.





Express your concerns to your husband and see what he has to say about it.
no because its not like your making him or forcing him to miss a dinner. just tell him how you feel and thats all you could do.if its not mandatory then he should skip the dinner if he knows none of hiz friends are going. why waste his time going to a dinner if its going to be with one girl he should think thats boring or something and be with you instead.thats good that he told you though thats showing you should kind of trust him but he should make wiser choices to not hurt you or disrespect you.m husband says that he could be telling you that they had dinner but is that all hes telling you..you never know when he could be lying because he should have never went out to dinner with her in the first place if its more than once.
Here is a piece of advice. Don't hound him. Whether men are right or wrong they are always up for a challenge. They love women to compete for them. Even if they think it's innocent. Men also like attention. Single or about to be single women start playing the pursuit game. They pay attention to the man. Giving him what he wants mentally at first that he does not acquire at home. Men like feeling special in a woman's eyes. We could give them sex every day of the week and if we fail to give them the super hero complex they will gravitate towards the one who does. Even if they don't realize it. She will play that game too if she is interested in him.





Give him his attention. Start calling for date nights. Give him a quicky out of nowhere. Flirt with him in a sense that makes him feel like he is #1 to you and he won't crave that attention that she gives him.





No matter how much you cook and clean for him at home it will never cross his mind as much as flirtation does. It's the nature of the beast.
Why do you think that the coworker is flirty? Sounds like you need to trust your husband. If he wanted to cheat on you why would he tell you who he had dinner with?


Keep the pressure on at home and it'll give him a reason to get ';away'; and talk about the problems he's having at home. Ya know?


You must also remember this Anne is always there because she might not have anybody to go home to anymore,gotta walk in her shoes.


One last thing you might think about, I work at a job that have many, many pretty women.Many of them are lonely and idolized by men all day long,yet they go home alone to a empty home. When you talk to them and they know that your not interested in them other than just small talk,they won't shut up. I think this is the case with your ';Anne';


All she knows is work and the group around her. If she's pretty blame her parents.


Be happy that your husband tells you what goes on,always talk and you'll never be surprised.
i would do sneaky way, innocent way





if u know when he usually has meeting dinner, set up romantic dinner just for two of u or ur kids events or something like that and ask ur hubby to go and if he says he has a meeting,tell him, well skip it, after all other staff does, so skip it and he'll just have to, to show u that ure priority, if he refuses and make big deal about it, then something is going on and he prefers spend time with Anna, away from his family or stress time. but that's not where he belongs.
I don't think it's unreasonable to encourage him to skip out on work-related functions where no appreciable business or general group bonding can get accomplished - or, alternatively, bring you along every now and then. But I also wouldn't blow one dinner out of proportion. As you said, he was honest about it. And it's possible Anne's attending so many of these functions precisely because she's not ready to cope with dating or other social activities yet. Unless she shows more overt interest in him, I wouldn't be too concerned - and even if she does, trust him to handle it appropriately.