Think of leaving Husband...Need Advice!?

I'm thinking of leaving my Husband for plenty of reasons. I'm trying to evaluate the good and the bad. Here are the good:


He works to support his family (enough to pay the rent)


He will do something if you ask him to. (he can be helpful at times)


He can be sweet and loving at times.





Here are the bad.


He works but it's only enough to pay the rent, not to buy food, pampers or clothes for our child.


He is very insecure. We've been to gether for almost 4 years and he is still insecure...to the point where he would check my cell phone, or question my where abouts.


When I ask him to do something for me (Because I'm 9months preganant and can't do it myself) he will make a face like I'm asking him to give me blood.


I would write down things that needs to be fixed in the house and explain to him that these things need to be fixed before the new baby comes it takes him weeks to do it (And thats with me reminding him) But, he will do something for his side of the family in a heart beatThink of leaving Husband...Need Advice!?
ok, first let's eliminate 1%26amp;2 from the goods, because obviously he is not doing them.





I really think that in today's society DIVORCE is something very easy to do, like going and buying a new dress, don't give me wrong, I'm not critizising you because i don't know how you guys live your life everyday, but i think that marriage is not easy, love is a big part of it, and when you have that present, it is easy to deal with all of the extra stuff, like things you don;t like about him, and maybe he is struggling too about things that he doesn't like about you...like maybe you don't think he makes a lot of money, which can hurt his self-esteem, you said he can be sweet and loving at times, that tell me there is still hope in you guys.





How woudl you feel is he comes to you today and tells you he wants a divorce because he doesn't like the way you clean the house? huh?





talk to him about these things, and tell him all these little details about him and try to make it work. if it doesn't work it doesn't, but all you can do is try.





Good luck my friend.Think of leaving Husband...Need Advice!?
Please don't be so quick in making decision like this one. Its a life-decision if I'm in your situation.





It is better to be open minded and talk about it and work out the pros and cons of the issues you are facing.





Overall, it will be so hard for the husband to see you leave by not simply able to support his family fully unless he does not love you anymore.





This is something you can work out together if more openness takes place in between.
I CAN FEEK YOUR PAIN, DOES HE NOT KNOW WOMEN ARE EXTRA SENSITIVE DURING PREGNANCY? HE NEED TO STEP UP ON HIS RESPONSIBILITIES, HAVE A SERIOUS CONVERSATION WITH HIM ABOUT HIS NON-CHALANT ATTITUDE, AND TELL HIM WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND AND THE CONCEQUENCES BEHIND IT IF HE DOES'T IMPROVE HIMSELF
If you have a problem, you dont run away from it, or if you dont like the way your husband acts, you dont just throw him away.


A mature person would work on the relationship. An immature person would flee
i really think you know the answers to your question. its just a matter of time before you do leave him and by the sound of it you'd be better off.
Wow just wow, how come women always think of ';leaving him'; when a baby is there and a court can make him pay child support ?
Have a long talk with him, then decide from there.
KICK HIM TO THE CURB!!!!!!!! AND HOPE LIKE H@LL HE HITS HIS HEAD ON IT AND KNOCKS SOME SINCE INTO HIM!
So why exactly did you marry him, cause it sure doesn't sound like love.
The two of you need marital counseling and you need to work through this. The grass is not greener somewhere else-especially being a single mom! The only time to divorce is when you have ';Biblical'; reason and in this case you dont. You married him , you need to work through the troubles. He's not a bf you can just run from because you dont like what he is/is not doing. Good Luck!
Okay His priority should be you and the kids... you are HIS FAMILY...he created the babies w/you...not you alone... remind Him of his duties as a husband, father, tell him to do it or you'll find someone who will and he can pay the bill for it ...I bet he'll get his kiesta moving then lol.. Congrats on the new baby... i know at times marriage is alot of work... what you must ask yourself is do I love him...does he love me... Am I happy? Do what is right for You.... The baby will pick up on it sooner or later if Mommy is happy or not...as well as Daddy..is this truly what you want for the baby? And as well... try to spice it up between you two, do all you can within your power to make it work first.... then take it from there...no rash decisions...
It sounds like you already knew he was a certain type of man before you married him. The fact that you are pregnant makes me want to tell you to slow it down for a minute, have the baby, develop a plan to leave then re-evaluate. I totally understand what you are going through. However, while pregnant everything is blown out of propotion. I am not saying don't leave him but make things easy on you. Have the baby first, save some money, look for an apartment and/job then go forward. It will be to difficult for you and the kids right now if you were to leave your husband. It does not sound like he is abusing you in any way...just sounds like a you want more out of life then he is willing to get off of his *** and do. YOu totally deserve more and so does your kids. He will not change, only you can change but do it right. At this point you are just so over him, every thing he does or says will annoy the heck out of you. Bear with you until you are ready. Spend more time with your family and friends and enjoy your pregnancy.
He is immature and selfish. He wants to make sure he isn't doing more than his share. I would guess that he is also a ';mamma's boy'; and runs to her for advice and anytime she wants anything done, he is there for you. That won't change and you will always come in a far second with him. He will also compare everything you do to his precious mama. You won't do anything as good as she does it. The reason he checks your phone is because she has told him to do so. I don't know if he can be fixed to be your husband instead of his Mamma's son. Good luck.
You know now a days, it takes 2 incomes to support a family. Were you working before you were pregnant? If so thats where the rest of the money is. You do have to realize, he is under a lot of pressure as well. Yes, he may need to go find another job. I did when my ex-wife was pregnant. In fact there was a point where I was working 3 different jobs when she was not working. Now, I am divorced because of her poor decisions and bad choices. I have full custody of the kids and she has to pay child support. I have a nice job now and only work 40 hours a week. My kids are under 12 and we are doing fine.
first off have u spoken to him about it an told him exactly how u feel, im pregnant and having problems with my hubby too and i know its really hard to deal with them at times, feels like they dont understand what ur going thru and how the tiniest bit of help makes so much difference ... explain to him that u have thought of leaving him and give him an altermatum tell him that u need him to be the dad and the husband of the family and u need help around the house if he isnt earning enough right now tell him that he is guna need to try to get another job or a promotion to help u out .. take note of his reactions to all of this and see if he genuinly wants to help u and THEN make ur discision on what u want to do for u and ur children .. good luck!!
He is a woman's worst nightmare for a spouse. I would suggest you listed the positive things to convince yourself you should stay in the relationship. Life is too short to put up with a loser like that, even if you have his child and means being a single mom and financial hardship. . . . . get out of that relationship!!!! What he is doing to you according to your narrative is: MENTAL SPOUSAL ABUSE! Has he ever done anything physical (hit you)? I bet he has and if not, it will soon come. He will never change. He is what and who he is, counselling, talking will never change that. I know that from dealing with this the last 35 years of my professional career.





I strongly suggest you make immediate plans and leave this person. He will tell you how much he loves you, how sorry he is and will do better. Don't get sucked in by these statements, all spousal abusers say this. LEAVE!!!!!
It sounds like your main concern is the safety of your children. If you really feel like they are at risk, then maybe you should consider leaving. Try staying with a friend or relative for a little while. This doesn't mean you have to leave your husband for good. You could just take a little break from him and work on your relationship without living together. You may be able to qualify for state or county run counseling services, which offer lower rates. I would strongly suggest having a third party step in to mediate because his behavior is not good for you or your children.
He sounds like a good husband, except for the fact that he only works enough to pay the rent. He should be buying food and products for your child. I think you should work on things with him before leaving him permanently. You should give him a good scare and take yourself and your children to stay with your parents or a family member for a month or two and let him know you need things to change.
Sounds like your relationship is filled with baggage.... and you married this guy why???? And you picked him to sire your children why???





Hmmmm sweetie, if you had been my sister, you'd have drawn a line thru his name eons ago.





Here's the list my mom hammered into my head beginning when I was 13. Short of serious counseling, and he understanding that you and he ought to be a committed couple, and giving you and your relationship a higher ranking, you chose poorly, if any of this is true.





Where was your radar, girl????





1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart.


2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to


3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decades鈥? Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are forever鈥? Husbands, lovers and promises are not!!


4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better.


Sent to you with love from my mom... and sweetie, get back in school, and start your stash...... You blew it at items one and 2.
Listen, the grass isn't greener on the other side. First of all, it sounds like your giving him a little pressure and being controlling. You sound like you want your husband to jump when you say jump. Leaving him isn't going to make it easier for you because then you will be stuck with the work yourself. All relationships aren't the best, but you have to work as a team to make things run smoothly. I am a true believer of that and I do so in my relationship. He's doing the best that he can, by providing a roof for you and your children. As for the insecure thing, you need to talk to him about it. Things just don't iron themselves out just by not talking to each other. Reasure him that your not cheating or whatever his fear is of you. Don't hold grudges over the past of something he has done unless he has continued doing it and won't stop. We are all human and make mistakes that we can't turn the clock back in time to fix whatever we did wrong. We deal with it, own up to it and move on. You need a father for this child that your about to give birth to. So many children are without parents in this day in age and it's so wrong! They need a stable surrounding with a healthy relationship between both parents. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your unborn child! Give him a little break and stop demanding that he gets these projects done. Try re wording what you say so it doesn't sound like your demanding things. Doing it this way and you'll find that you get a better response out of him.