I want to take divorce from my husband .urgent advice needed..plz help?

i am an indian 23 yr old.i got married in aug 2008 thru matrimonial site.after marriage i realized that i had been fooled.my husband told me wrong salary more than one lac per month but it was just 35 thousand.he told me he was doing mba from abroad and his company had financed him.later i gotta know that he was studying on educational loan.and more over he used to drink smoke and take drugs too,...my in laws were always creating troubles for me.my father in law never gave us privacy.he used to be in our bedroom most of the times.he did not let us go on honeymoon.and neither he used to let us go out for dinner or movie.my husband had come for marriage after his 2 nd semester of mba and b4 marriage it was decided that ill go along wid him on tourist visa for 3 months and then ill come back and he will give exams and come back after me forever to india.but he dint do court marriage wid me.he dint get my visa done.and went back promising me that he wuld call me as soon as possible.but when he reached thr he refused and said that ill have to live wid his parents and i was not allowed to go and meet my mom also.after he went thr my father in law started misbehaving wid me.he wuld always stay in my bedroom.he wuld try touching me here and there.and also hug me kiss me saying that he was too happy to get a daughter like me.i culd figure out his intentions and informed my mom.she came and took me home.after that my husband fought wid me that i was putting false blames on my ftaher in law and he stoppped talking to me and he said he wuld give me divorce.in jaunary i met a new guy who was a divorcee and he proposed me for marriage.i told him that iam separated but not yet divorced.so he said he wuld wait for me till i take divorce.in feb end my husband came back to india.and he called me and we decided to take divorce on mutual basis.they got ready to pay 7 lacs only though we had spent 15 lacs on my wedding.also they were taking all thier gifts from me (clothes and jewellry ) which is supposed to be istridhan....in may we were this close to divorce when me and my husband met and we got attracted towards each odr and dropped the idea of divorce.he took me back home.there i told him about the new guy.and i told him coz of divorce i had moved on in life.so if he can accept this fact then ill stay else ill go back take divorce and marry the new guy.my husband got very angry and he beat me badly.he snatched my mobile and called that guy and abused him too...after that my father in law and my brother in law also beat me.and they were threatening me that they wuld lodge an infidility case over me, prove me chracterless and get divorce in free.then my mom came told them that she would get my divorce done and took me home.i did not lodge any f.i.r against them as i dont want to get into cases as i am a fatherless child.no brother sister also.now we have again asked them to take mutual divorce as decided earlier.they say yes on our face but are not even coming to sign the papers.now court is on holiday for one month.wat do i do ? how do i get istridhan and compensation money ? and can they put case aginst me ??I want to take divorce from my husband .urgent advice needed..plz help?
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Please get in touch with one good lawyer.
contact a lawyer. don't worry 498a dowry can save . but go for mutual consent divorce
hi sis ..im bharath. i wont say ';im sorry for you' bcoz if i say that u will feel disheartened and guilty. but i understood ur pain.


first as the court is on holiday we cant approach them ... and u say that u dont want to file a case ... but its really difficult to attain ur money back .... so my advice to u is to file a cheating case against ur ';husband'; as he provided wrong information (salary, work etc ) and even against the ';matrimonial site';. And then file another case against ur in laws for abusing you. this will help u out for some time ..and then later when the court comes back put a case against them. and i promise you will definitely succeed.





As a brother im telling you think about ur happiness ... ur life first


'; If i was ur brother i would have killed ur in laws, sorry im some wat emotional';





But with out filing case u cant get the money back !!! some external force should be acted to get the things done.





and next they cant file any case against you bcoz u havent done any thing wrong ... u just told to ur husband thats it .. you did not commit with divorce person, that doesnt make any sense of putting case.








second option :


if u think money is not that important just feel u donated money to a mentally handicapped center thats it and leave a happy life with the new person as u say he is good.





but one thing be courageous be brave !!! every one in this world is single person .. be a one man army.. sorry one woman army ..





'; Believe in the power of goodness';





Actually im not a lawyer .... but i have some idea ... ill even contact others on ur behalf .... but pls never loose HOPE plsssssssssssssss





my id : free4u_bibo@yahoo.co.in


if u feel the stuff wich i gave u is worth pls do reply me ...
if u get married with the other guy without getting divorce u can land up in bowl of hot soup u can be in prison for more than 3 years punishable offence of bigamy under section 494, 495 of the Indian Penal Code. just keep it calm and make sure u get out of this case ..and even from the boy i dont know how to help u but seem to be like u r in deepshit one complaint u r gone and u will loose the case dam badly may be get a good lawyer.i thing if they dont attend to the court they will get a legal notice and u will win the case
Meet an Advocate ASAP and see that a notice is served on your Husband. You cannot make your In laws parties in the matter. The problem has to be solved between you two. Divorce by mutual consent is easy and does not pose more problem and it will be decided in six months.


If you want to get alimony from your husband you have to fight alone and bear all the legal expenses on your own.


You did a wrong thing in going back to your husband.


Only an Advocate in your area can help in these things. You can take the help of your new boy friend if he is sincere and reliable indirectly.
o dear m so sorry to hear all this and understand what u hv gone thru coz some kind of situation m facing too. anyways dear ur mistk was to s\come back to this guy u have even cheated ur new love. but i can understand girls are emotional fools.so no doubt u should tk divorce. get a good lawer. u know i nvr filed any case n still livibg with my husband just becouse i knw they'll put false blames , my m i l allready called my charecterless nd it's really hard to bear all this. be strong dear hv faith in GOD. he has sent love in ur world smone who wants to wait for u. mk him ur power best of luck
Major solution to this problem is to get yourself financially independent not dependent on your family nor your husband family. Do not be hurry in getting another marriage. Stay away from these atmosphere. Still you are young. What happen is all for once goodness. This is only one paragraph of life. Be optimistic and build your future. Do not look behind. Go ahead , Go ahead . All the best.
http://indidivorce.com/





Check out this website on divorces in india, there are other links there and a search for your more specific questions. Wish I could help more, but I don't know the law in your country. Whatever you do, do not go back to this man no matter what. Ride out this divorce. Good luck.
cn undersand ur prob..bt it was dumb of u to reveal to ur hubby.nw tht all is spoilt i jst suggest u to assign ur case to a fie attorney n wait...its going to take real long if they dnt turn up...wish all th best
Your case is not as complicated as you think it is.





First A female under Indian law can not be charged with infidality so be clear about it. A female can not be proved characterless.





Second even if the divorce is with mutual consent , your in laws have to return every thing to you.





Third forget another guy till divorce is complelted else three things mentioned will be againt you.





Fourth you can force your hubby to live with you away from in-laws just by filing a simple case





Do not be afraid of many cases filed agaisnt you. Being a fatherless child is not disadvantage.





Do not panic , sit quit and decide what you want to do
divorce is last thing to do after marriage. it appears that u got into marriage in a great hurry without knowing anything about the husbands family background. its all messy %26amp; u r responsible every step of mistake that has occured with u. try to place urself at a neutral position %26amp; judge. u will come to conclusion that i m right.
Marriage cannot be build on mis-trust. That's exactly your husband has done. Also if u feel that divorce is the only way out go for it. Also i would suggest you take help of any Lady Social worker's help from your town. This will help u build up the case %26amp; do according to her advices. Also if possible u can take up lawyer practicing in divorces This will help u to get all legal courses. Based on which you can decide the next line of action.


Go for it your case if stronger on your side. Hope this helps, %26amp; best luck for ur future......
Your story caught my attention since I'm Pakistani and can relate to what happens back in India and Pakistan to innocent girls like you


It's really sad what your husband and his family have done to you and the way they have treated you. A lot of people lie about many things before getting married, but what they have done is unforgivable. I say call a good Lawyer who will help you out and get you a divorce asap. Once that's done marry the other guy you met and move out of India. Otherwise people like your current husband will continue to torture you for the rest of your life. good luck and feel free to msg me if you want to talk