What should I do when my husband won't stop calling his mom for advice on everything?

I am 22 and newly married. Everytime I am trying to figure something out in the kitchen, my husband wants me to call his mom and ask for advice. Sometimes he calls her behind my back when I say I will just look something up online. Am I wrong for being irritated about this? I don't want his parents thinking I am incapable of handling things.What should I do when my husband won't stop calling his mom for advice on everything?
make fun of his baby buttWhat should I do when my husband won't stop calling his mom for advice on everything?
Remember why you love your husband, because your in the stage now of really getting to know him as a husband. I have had to come to accept the fact that my higher than average wage spouse is going be a fiancial dunce for our entire 26yr marriage. Its a problem area, I've told myself. I am so in love even now, but grind my teeth to this day (privately) and work on the situation cheerfully to coax the retard in a different direction without hurting his tender stubbord feelings. Thats what love is-------a small thing in light of the sheer paradise other wise. All of us deal with it. Yours seems so slight, so smile.
Be honest and explain this to him....maybe he just doesnt understand how you feel. If that doesnt work, explain to him that you two are adults and can figure stuff out on your own..
Well then don't complain, and tell him that he if wanted a mother he should of married someone else.


You are young and often young mens have trouble getting pass the mommy food, mommy this and mommy that. Just let him know that you are willing to try and that he needs to give you a break but you also have to be able to accept your MIL's help if you really need it.


good luck
Well, I think this is interesting because my husband has been calling his mother for almost everything and we have been married for 37 years. Sooooo I wish you a lot of luck. No you are not wrong for being irritated about being treated like a kid. You need to learn things on your own. So what if you goof it up the first time, you are 22 and you will have plenty of times to get it right. Best of luck to you both. Hang in there.
Is he getting good Mommerly advice-that's the question. If it gets any more serious you'll need the ammo of info.
Everyone would feel the same way as you do. Just try to figure out your kitchen problems on your own. Cause if he's involved he ll call his mother. And his mother one day won't be here so just put up with the situation. He can't help the way he feels about MoM.
No you are not wrong for feeling this way. Ask your husband to allow you to figure things out on your own. I am sure you know that success in any relationship is based highly upon communication. Talk to him and let him know exactly how you feel about what he does. Or just start taking care of things when he is not around.
No you aren't wrong that's why a man should leave his mother and cleave to his wife. He needs to grow up you married him not his mother.
Oh, just call his mom a couple of times and ask her advice. She will not think you are incapable. On the contrary, she will like to be able to help you and mentor you a little bit :) It will make her feel inportnant. Use this opportunity to build good relationships with your mother-in-law. Seriously. Don't let her overdo it and be in control of serious matters, of course, but kitchen advice will do no harm. Besides, she may say something really useful.
Call him a little B***h.
Please dont take it personally. He has been asking her all his life it will atke some time to realize that you do know what you are talking about but she has been his rock for 20 some odd years.
Is your husband ';Ray Romano';?
Tell your husband you understand and appreciate his relationship with his mom. But you'd like him to understand and appreciate your relationship with him. Tell him that you are trying to be the best wife you can, and you find it hard to do living in his mothers shadow. Tell him you enjoy trying to work things out on your own, that's what makes a wife a good wife, you can even go so far as to tell him you feel like it's cheating all the time, needing to go to his mom.





Obviously, he is close to he mom, so don't bad mouth her or it will just be a battle.
serves you right for marrying mamas boy
My wife of 4 months does the same thing with my father in law. The good thing is that we think alike and generally come to the same conclusion. So my wife is starting to get the picture that my opinion/thoughts can be trusted.
tell him you dont need their help everytime you go to the batrhroom. Cut the apron strings. Also tell him this in a lovingn way. Also i would grab his coc... and say are you a man or boy? then make ur decions and dont let your parents make it for u
OMG....tell him to get off the tit,,,you need to stop this now


you got a mommas boy on your hands
You can look at this one of two ways: you're both young, and he's never been out on his own. He's looking for help, but he should be looking with you, not for you, and not asking his mom for every little thing. Probably irritates Dad as much as it irritates you.





The other way to look at it, that other answers have picked up on, is that his mom is actually running the show. Probably also irritating to Dad...





The easy solution is this: you're going to have to talk to him. You shouldn't have to spend your time with him feeling irritated. Don't be angry about it. Be honest. You're a new wife; of course you're going to have questions. But you're right; you don't want to look like a dope in front of your in-laws. At the same time, he's a new husband; understand that he might be feeling jittery about being a head of a new household and taking on loads of new responsibility. Work together to figure out a better way of answering the questions you'll have in this new life.





Good luck--
Well, you married a mama's boy. There are a lot out there. Men are tough to reason with when it comes to mommy but I'd let him know that it irritates you that he doesn't trust you to do simple things without checking.





FP
Start calling yours and see how he likes it. It would also be a good idea if you could talk to a mutual friend or pastor to discuss it with him. He seems insecure for some reason.
Break the phone? No seriously I would talk to him about it and tell him that it bothers you. He probably just doesn't understand that him doing that irritates you and if you let him know about it he will be able to change it. Can't change what you don't know about! Good luck
You have a good argument. Tell your husband that you guys are married now. Which basically means as husband and wife, you look to each other for most everything. He is a ';man'; now with a wife......as such, he can't go running to mommy for everything.





Continue to express to him the importance of wanting to be independant from parents being involved constantly in ';advising'; in your marriage.
So your new husband is a little immature. . . . . . . .





He hasn’t been able to cut the apron strings yet, give him some time. In the mean time, let him know in a nice, loving and calm way that this constant calling for advise is hurting your feelings because of the reasons you explained in your question and you don’t want to be viewed as incapable in his parents eyes.





Have him view some of the “Everybody Loves Raymond” episodes to see what you mean.





Ask him how he’d feel if every time there was a “man chore” to be done you called YOUR father for advise.
Be honest, say what you feel. Tell him when the time is right (the TV is off, you are quiet and alone.) He needs to recognize that he took an oath to work together and vowed to support eachother, no matter what. He needs to grow up and have more respect and faith for you and your opinions. He obviously, didn't marry you thinking that you were incompetent. Take over something that stresses him out, to show that he can rely on you, as much or more than his mom.