I hate my wife's ex husband, any advice?

i can not stand to be in the same room with the man. He and his new wife talk down to my wife like she doesn't even matter. My wife and her ex have 2 children together, and he and his new wife both treat my wife like she isn't the mother of the 2 children. Some times i just want to hit him in his face when i see him but i know i can not do that. oh by the way her ex has custody of their children because he forced her into signing papers.I hate my wife's ex husband, any advice?
well, keep your cool. I don't know what the circumstances are for her giving up custody of her children, but that still gives her ex no right to talk to her like you say he does. He should have respect for the fact that she gave birth to their children. as for advice to you, just keep your coolI hate my wife's ex husband, any advice?
Revisit the custody issue in court. If she was coerced into giving up then that can be addressed.





You don't have to put up with his crap. When you hear them belittling her then step up and defend her since she is not capable of doing so. He can't legally penalize her by interfering with her court ordered visitation.





Custody can always be contested. She is married now with a stable home. She is the mother of these children. Unless she is unfit most judges will support the mother being involved in her children's lives. In fact making the children call the step mom ';mom'; can have a negative effect on the EX as it can show he is actively trying to deprive her of her children. Your solution is to take him to court. Let him bring his ';little piece of paper'; before a judge. Your wife can get legal visitation and Mississippi that holds to old traditional values. They won't want to support the loss of either parent to these children and will do what they can to assure they see both. Only when another state tries to encroach on their custody laws will they side with the residing parent. You need to act soon. Contact child advocacy organizations. You can contact the county courthouse as well and ask questions. If all your wife signed was a guardianship paper over to her ex then that can be reversed at any time. The fact that she didn't complete an education is not sufficient reason to exclude her contribution as a mother to these children. In fact it could do more harm to them than good by not seeing them. The court will assess and always do what is in the best interests of child no matter what state it is.


Try consulting with an attorney. Many attorneys offer a 1st time free consultation just to see if your case has any merits and tell you if it is a lost cause or not. Then they will tell you what their retainer fee is and the cost. Even if you don't have all of the funds at this time you can start to save til you do have them and get your wife someone who will look out for her interests. This will help give your wife some hope and a sense that she is not helpless and can fight back.


Education doesn't make anyone a better parent anymore than a lack of one makes a parent inferior. It's time to take actions. Let a court decide.
That's awful!


If I were you I would pull him to the side and warn him in no uncertain terms will you tolerate his attitude towards your wife. as to the ex's new one, have your wife pull her into a corner and do the same.


Back each other up and watch this pair fall to pieces.
What is it that he has on her to force her to give up custody of her children?





This is an item that needs to go back to the court.
He cant force her to do anything, she chose to give up custody.
Has the statute of limitations run out on his Statutory Rape charges yet?
Just ignore him.
Sounds to me like you are frustrated with her, for taking it, and not standing up for herself. You should talk to her about this, and be clear about what frustrates you.





Regarding the things that she refuses to stand up for, do these impact you, in any way, or does this only bother you because you perceive it as evidence that he still has some hold over her? If your concerns are genuinely for her personal growth and development, I would think understanding would be a more appropriate feeling. If this is really rooted in some kind of territorialism, I think you should acknowledge that, which may eliminate the frustration.





Bottomline: you can't control her, but you guys can, and should, work through this together. The ex and his new wife may always act like superior dipsh*ts, but if you guys are strong, and united, their idiocy could become nothing more than a source of amusement. You guys should be able to just laugh at how stupid they're acting. Try to get there.





Knowing what you're feeling is only half the battle. Understanding why you're feeling it, is your next logical step.





Good luck to you.





Added: ok, based on additional details, this is mostly about the kids. In that case, I'd get the best legal advice you can afford. There is always a loophole. Find it or get someone who can find it for you.