Im confused about my husband, need advice.?

Ok, I got married after only knowing my husband for 3 weeks, he is from NY and lets just say I'm from the middle of nowhere NM. I really did love my husband when we met. After about a year we started to physically fight, I have anger problems and he would verbally abuse me so I would try to hit him. Of course he would come back at me. This use to happen alot. He seems to be so hateful about everything. All he says is, I hate this and that. About everything from tv to some girl across the street. Sometimes I just think I don't like him, The thing is, his a good man, hard working, holds me at night. Would never cheat. Plus we have NO jealousy issues, I can go to the bar with my friends and so can he. We do not worry about that crap. Plus he always fixes my car and cooks, and cleans. I just think me and him have anger problems. He refuses to see a counselor because he says he isn't affected by the way we fight sometimes. He gets over it and I don't I'm just confused.Im confused about my husband, need advice.?
the more talking the two of you do, will make you both stronger. IF one of you get angry and want to hit walk away and leave the other one alone till you both calm down.





GO see a professional and get help for the both of you. Good luck!Im confused about my husband, need advice.?
anger management class for you. it will do wonders.
I'm not married, nor have I ever been, but I know that verbal and physical abuse is extremely draining and damaging to all parties involved. You have a child. How do you think she will feel once she's old enough to understand all the ';hateful'; things you two say to eachother! Think of how that will affect her and her future relationships. I know, because I was once in her position. It's a terrible feeling knowing that your parents can't stand eachother. If you can't work it out, think of her, and do what is right.
Definately. You don't have to go to a counselor to actively think. Your biggest test comes when he makes you angry, you will have to control it and think you don't want to hit, and walk away. You do that enough times and you will have a grip on your anger and the physical abuse.
He hits you, hates TV and hates the girl across the street but he's a good man because he has no issues about going to a bar.


And to think, out of all of the millions of sperm, he's the one who made it.
well only the 2 of you can stop this.nobody man or woman should put there hands on their partner.


but you guys need to stop this or just go your seperate ways.


it is not healthy for your child to be around this.


would you want your child to stay in a abusive relationship?


children learn from what they see from us parents.
if he wont get counciling, you should go for yourself. It can help you sort out your anger issues and you'll definitely be a better mother and wife from it.
anger management
It sounds like you are fine if you stop fighting. No violence needs to be around your baby. If he holds you at night then he loves you.
Try to talk more and find out what the problems are. Try to work on solving any isues.
You don't need him to go to counseling. You should go even if he doesn't join you to address your individual anger issues. Remember, you have a daughter now and owe it to her to be the best person you can be.
you should sit down and talk with this guy because if you really love him and want this relationship, tell him how you feel and see what he says. it's better to resolve an issue now than let it grow to a monster. even if he doesn't come, it's alright to go yourself. if you have a child, you shouldn't let anger issues get in the way of her living a happy life.
first you need to explain to himexactly how you feel and tell him why its so important you see a counselor.If he still says he doesnt want to do it compramise ask him if you two could go together for one month and if it doesnt help stop going if it does keep going. you might also want to go to anger managment classes. you dont want your daughter to grow up in a home filled with verbal and phisical abuse, it will be destructive to her it can affect her self-esteem andthe realtionships she will have when shes older. you wouldnt want her to be treated like that by a man because if she sees your husband do that to you she wont think its a big deal when/if it happens to her.





good luck


i hope everything works out for the best


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