If the calls were outgoing, then it isn't just her calling him all the time, he can make the choice of not calling her back if he misses the call. If she is in another country, you don't have to worry about him cheating on you until she comes here. I don't blame him for hiding from you, it is a natural instinct, but that doesn't make it right. He should have told you. If you have been married for 5 years, then he probably is loyal to you. Tell him it is OK for the two of them to talk, but if it gets to be anymore of that, you are done. There is no harm in a man talking to a woman, as long as it is as friends. I would keep trusting him, unless you find out that she has visited him.I caught my husband....please advice.?
The length of the rope should be directly proportional to the confidence level you have in him.
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This guy is cheating.
How many ex's of yours do you still talk to that you hide from him? Zero, right?
You need to lay down the law - no more. And if he says no, you have your answer and his choice.
I'm sorry for you.
What a hurtfull situation you are in.I would be as upset over this as you are. Five years is a long time to be with someone and believe they are loyal to you! He knew he was wrong and that was why he was hiding this from you.His ex would have never kept calling if he had stopped her on the first call.She had no bussiness talking with him knowing that he was married.He should have never given her that attention for any reason!How did he expect you to react witholding important information from you concerning his contact with an ex girlfriend? I would not except this excuse because it was his responsibility to end it when she started. The point is that there were numerous calls to her that he made personally to her and that to me would mean he is more than intrested in her. How heartbreaking can that be to a wife that always believed in him and would destroy the trust in his marriage. The low blow to me would be the answer he gave in how you would react to it! But he gave you no choice did he? If he knew that you would react to it then he knew better than to hurt you this way. How do you fix the problem when the damage is done? He disrespected you and gave you every indication that he was up to no good. The only choice you have now because he was caught is that he stop all communication with her (because he was caught) and only learn to live with it. Husbands don't realize that it's things like this that make us look at them differently and we will never get that comfort zone back!! I really feel sorry for what you are going through and only you know what is and is not comfortable for you. Take care sweetie.
there is a chance that he's not cheating but I would find out first before making any rash decisions. If you find evidence of infidelity, get out while you can.
infedility is common these days. Instead of confronting, try talking n resolving the issue by talks. If possible get the hold of the ex and rest i believe u know!
Do you need a truck to run over you . He isn't cheating in person but he is cheating .How do you know what they are doing on the Internet or on the phone for that matter .Confront him and tell him the calls and the Internet stop now and get conciling.
they maybe friends as he says but its obvious theyre really ';close';. Maybe too close..You need to find out quick why he feels the need to call her or anyone in the wee hours of the night. Plus its all being done behind your back that speaks volumes. Im positive hes not giving you the whole story.
The trust issue is up to you. You have alot on your plate as it apprears you believed the relationship was fine and in working order before you found out about your husbands';friend';
he is going to cheat on you better watch out what the hell he has talking to his exgirlfriend. don't trust him again. tell him stop talking to her or you will leave him until he put act toghter how he likes if you talk to your exboyfiend or other quys beaing married women.
You sound like me...I found out the same thing. Trust is gone, took a little faith to accept that but it is. He shouldn't be talking to her THAT much without telling you.......something's not completely right there. I found, when I searched my soul, that I'd be a walking zombie trying to guess what he was doing, spying on him, going through his things and just decided I didn't want that kind of relationship. You'll have to decide for yourself, but if you can't trust him and you end up showing that in ANY way, you'll be the one to blame. I'd seperate and decide and let him know the behavior is unacceptable..did you hear me? UNACCEPTABLE.
If he hasn't already cheated he will. He has no business talking to this woman when you are not around. That behavior would not be tolerated by me if my husband were talking to an ex. Tell him to stop ALL communication with her and focus on your marriage. If he is unwilling to do it, then seek a lawyer.
Girl...Please...Do not believe the bull. I think you already know that. It is sad that he can't or do not want to let go of of the past. He has no obligation to her. They do not have any kids...so why call her late in the evening or accept her calls soo lat?
I got a question for you...Ask if she has insurance..Why? Tell him she need to utilize a therapist. Your husband is not a certified therapist and if he is...he need to start charging her AZZZZZZZZZ.
His excuse...I did not know how you were going to react...yes he did...that is why he didn't say anything. He need to cut the strings...you are his friend...and friends should not have to lie to each other about anything IF it is soooo innocent as he claim.
He is full of crap...simple as that!!!
The best thing you could do is stand your ground and tell hubby to stop the calls now. He can no longer accept hers because it is getting out of hand. Where ever she resides...she has family and friends..she can utilize them. If not,....they have therapist. And obvious she has the money because she is making enough international calls to talk to him. Be smart and don't let anyone run over you. Hold your on....and be firm.
I don't blame you if you do not trust him...if he lie' in over this...then what next. Remember that ; X
Good Luck and hold your on ; )
He'll cheat soon. He said she was the one to call %26amp; then you find that he's calling her to.excuse me!!! If they are just friends why does he need to hide. I've got a friend that my husband hates and you know what I don't hide it from him because we're not doing anything wrong. I would also keep an out on your finances and important documents, make sure he's taking whats yours and letting his ex profit from it.
leave him
if he is making calls to her than its not just her who needs to speak with him. he is lying to u so u won't confront him about what he is doing. it is hard to accept reality when it concerns the man u love, almost impossible to believe, but look at the facts here, if i were u i would confront him tell him the game is over that u know the truth, and if he wants to stay married he has to stop calling her and her him.
dump him
with all that at hand...I think your facing some very deep troubles along the way....he's calling across the country and that's something deep right there...you better have that real nice long heart to heart talk with your husband....and let him know your not for that
ask him why u need to do so and try ur best that he should stop it at once and concentrate in you, in a similiar situation i used to be on tour (nature of my job) and i caught my wife doing all this by details of telephone bills ...etc and confronted highest level ,but the did not stop and today i am left seperated from my wife ,missing social respect and my daughter who is with me missing the love of a mother .believe me the present life is very miserable ..(india)
Oh a trust thing, Tell him one time? you ever catch him one time again calling her or emails or even looking at her,, your leaveing him,, sounds like he broke your trust already and really most people stay that way! without trust? you have nothing.. sounds like he a jerk. Oh cheat maybe? see you cant trust him, So maybe just move on with your life, why stay with him knowing he doing this to you? I know many people who waste the life they have on people who dont care or love them, oh LOVE if he loved you he wouldnt do the things he is doing! be smart LEAVE married or not he isnt a good person..
Secret mid-night calls and other contact with ex are never good, he could have ended this contact, but he has not wanted to---an emotional affair probably is going on--physical affair may be in the near future. You have every right to not trust him---he is doing this behind your back--he's only talking about it now because you caught him! Not to mention your phone bills! Have you checked your statements?
Nip this in the bud quick, talk, before its too late. Dont let him tell you this is ';just friends';---once you have had a sexual relationship with someone--hard to be ';just friends';.
hes either been cheating or is going to, watch the movie ';denial'; you'll notice your relation ship is something like theirs in the movie.
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